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People like this are everywhere at the moment. Why??

44 replies

Forgivemearant · 18/05/2023 10:42

These shallow, instagram-baked, all-fur-coat-and-no-knickers nothing people who parrot every line they hear in pop culture and have no actual substance or originality in themselves. They are exhausting to be around! They are like Disneyland people where the facade is a shiny, sincere pastiche of actual architecture. People who buy brands and period homes and shop in Whole Foods not because they genuinely have come to the conclusion that the actual ‘products’ are superior, but because that’s what their social group does, and they would rather have something others recognize as naice than something unknown, even if the unknown thing does the job better.

They are people who visit destinations not because they are genuinely interested or have a curiosity about a new culture/food/people, but because they have seen on the internet that they are rated ‘the best’. If the internet says something is the classiest or the most authentic or the most unbeatable, then it must be so. It’s like they can’t be bothered to form any actual opinions for themselves, and then they have the utter lack of awareness to try to wield their ‘best’ destinations like some weird status symbol (having never actually tried anywhere else!).

People who are cultural bandwagoners. They loudly and publicly attend shows/concerts/cultural events, but only because they are zeitgeisty and the thing to be seen doing. Like they love Hamilton but have zero interest in anything more obscure and might actually mock people who like more obscure things.

People who aggressively push their children toward universities for the school name alone and not the actual education, whilst sincerely proclaiming that they feel passionate about education.

People who buy the fancy kitchen gadgets and subscribe to the NYT recipes and consider themselves foodies, but are actually mediocre cooks who don’t know how to make basic things because ‘foodie’ is a persona they’ve adopted to impress their friends instead of something they actually are.

People who think buying a home in a city centre (vs a tiny new build on a suburban estate) is actually a sign of superior taste and intellect instead of something that is almost entirely money-based.

People who are very sincerely into organic free range Whole Foods products and love pick-your-own, but simultaneously sneer at the people who actually grow/raise the products as slightly dim, low-achieving country folk.

“You do you” = “I am a very chill and open minded person, but if you are at all different to me in terms of priorities, perspectives, or life experiences, then I will judge you extremely harshly and will discuss this with everyone I know.”

OP posts:
Fruitful82 · 18/05/2023 10:43

They are exhausting to be around!

so don’t be “around” them

Zeonlywayisup · 18/05/2023 10:46

This is an opinion that is so commonplace it is probably cut and paste from the very places you are finding for repellent.

growgrowinggrown · 18/05/2023 10:47

How insightful of you 🙄

prooses · 18/05/2023 10:47

It sounds like you need new friends OP if yours bother you so much!

GoneTillNovember · 18/05/2023 10:48

Wtf are you on about?

Merryoldgoat · 18/05/2023 10:49

I know no one like that because I choose friends I actually like.

greennotepad · 18/05/2023 10:49

I'm failing to see how people doing any of the stuff listed impacts you in any way.

Anyway- I'm sure you are just utterly thrilling and original OP, with no annoying features whatsoever.

Smittenkitchen · 18/05/2023 10:51

Just ignore! It sounds like you are spending a lot of time in the same online or in person spaces as these people. If it annoys you and doesn't align with the way you want to live your life, distance yourself from it all. It seems like you feel a sense of judgment about not doing some of those things yourself. Have courage in your own convictions and live the life you want to lead.

Cheetahmum · 18/05/2023 10:51

Zeonlywayisup · 18/05/2023 10:46

This is an opinion that is so commonplace it is probably cut and paste from the very places you are finding for repellent.

This! It's such a caricature of what someone thinks a certain type of person is like. The actual person doesn't exist but that's not relevant 😂

BloodandGlitter · 18/05/2023 10:51

You know who else is everywhere now? People who judge others for living their life in a way they enjoy, that isn't hurting anyone else. Can't understand how they can be like that - it must be exhausting constantly thinking yourself better than everyone else and being so desperate to prove it too!

RudsyFarmer · 18/05/2023 10:52

Where are you ‘finding’ these people? Online or in real life? I only know one influencer/mummy bragger and I’ve had an extremely short conversation with her and have swerved her ever since. So it’s possible to avoid these people.

Fruitful82 · 18/05/2023 10:52

You do realise that you’re not actually around them OP? Don’t you? Clutches straws

Genzken · 18/05/2023 10:53

Pretty much only on Instagram though so maybe just delete the app.

SilentParrot · 18/05/2023 10:53

You sound pretty exhausting yourself.

fajitaaa · 18/05/2023 10:53

“You do you” = “I am a very chill and open minded person, but if you are at all different to me in terms of priorities, perspectives, or life experiences, then I will judge you extremely harshly and will discuss this with everyone I know. what like you just did?

Cowparslee · 18/05/2023 10:54

Are you describing yourself? Just bothered that everyone else is just like you but you want to be special

SilentParrot · 18/05/2023 10:54

people following trends. such a new phenomenon...

Chypre · 18/05/2023 10:54

@Fruitful82 do you mean pearls? :D

BreviloquentBastard · 18/05/2023 10:55

Why give people who annoy you so much this much of your headspace? Just ignore them if they upset you so much?

MorrisZapp · 18/05/2023 10:56

There was a Whole Foods in Scotland, briefly. It's closed now.

Your references don't really work for much of the UK.

Weddingpuzzle · 18/05/2023 10:57

I am getting older and I have lived a VERY messy life. Substance misuse, sexual abuse, domestic abuse, eating disorders, lost a child, severe mental health problems, in the gutter poverty, sexual promiscuity, early menopause and on and on. I feel I am well placed to pass on a bit of wisdom learnt from these hard life lessons and I really really hope I don't sound patronising OP. I am the last person with a right to patronise anyone as I am such a fuck up.

I now worry about me and my life. Advocate for myself, I got to know myself, found out about me and my reactions, I am bothered about myself. I don't let myself get distracted by how frustrating other people are as I don't have power over that. It's not my business anyway. Let everyone else take care of themselves and live their life, I focus on mine. On my deathbed I will be thinking about me and my loved ones. I don't have power over others so I can't devote anymore time to how annoying or wrong or awful they are. So I devote it to myself and the people I love instead. I feel much better for it.

Fruitful82 · 18/05/2023 10:57

Chypre · 18/05/2023 10:54

@Fruitful82 do you mean pearls? :D

No straws

but both work

TheShellBeach · 18/05/2023 10:58

Surely it's easy to avoid people like this?
Why the long rant?
I know precisely nobody like this.

cocksstrideintheevening · 18/05/2023 10:58

Where are you seeing all these people? Maybe just ditch social media if it isn't for you?

Testino · 18/05/2023 10:58

Sheesh! In other words, most people then?

I personally don't get on well with all these people mentioned (hence I don't like most people and don't regard any group of people in any category. However, I genuinely care about people, in that I'm happy to help anyone who needs it) but writing it all here sounds so bitter.

I suppose that's why I'm grumpy too.