Hello MN
I am getting myself a little stressed and would appreciate some advice, words of wisdom, anyone personal experience.
My husband (soon to be ex) split in September and we have been battling out our finances since. We are both based in Scotland so had to have a minute of agreement drafted. Anyway, if my husband agrees the final wording change we should be in a position to both sign.
Two weeks ago I viewed a lovely property as I have 8 weeks to move out when this agreement is signed. I fell in love and it is perfect for me and my pooch.
I made an offer, I have had a mortgage agreement made in principle and I instructed a property solicitor to act on my behalf and finalise offer etc.
I spoke to Husband last night on the phone becaue he is keen to move back in (I never kicked him out btw, he moved out) and I;m keen to move on as its no longer my house and I want my own space.
I told him the last change to our minute of agreement (to try and cut out some communication delays) he was happy with this and agreed he would also be in a position to sign end of this week or early next. I then asked him to crack on with his mortgage application and let the lender know that he wishes to take up their offer of a higher mortgage (to buy me out). He then said he thinks this offer has now expired, we may need a new home report (home isnt being sold on market?!?!) and he has no time to enquire about title deeds being drafted.
I said if I have 8 weeks to move, he has to work within a timeframe aswell. He said he is busy with work and will try and do what he can this week. I asked him to please just get on with things as it could affect my property sale.
this morning the estate agent called as the home owner wanted to discuss move in dates. I provisionally agreed to a date and then she started asking about my situation and where I was with my finances. When I told her about husband and minute of agreement she said my situation is now "complex" and this could now take months and I could lose out on property.
I am just getting in a pickle as my husband took care of the home sale last time and we both lived with our parents so no big deal with delays. I hate having no control and I feel that I cant do anything more. I have done all I can from my end it is all up to my husband. He said if I push or ask for deadlines or updates that he wont do anything as we arent together anymore and I have no right to push him.
AIBU?
Have you had a similar expiernce, what was the timescales?