Using my brush...

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Bit random I know, so dd was playing with dolls which I've untangled the hair with fabric conditioner as normal, dd gives doll to dp who then picks up my hair brush... I say "can you not use my hairbrush on the doll please" he got annoyed and threw the brush resulting it to break into several pieces... I was stunned and simply said "you didn't need to throw it, I just didn't want you to use it in the dolls hair because of the fabric conditioner"
His reply "well if you shut up you could've just washedthe brush before you used it"
Whose BU?

Well, him using the brush wouldn't bother me, but his vile attitude to being asked not to, would.

Fabric conditioner is vile.

A violent reaction like that to you and in front of your DD is unacceptable. Is this the first kind of incident like this?

His temper resulted in one of your possessions being broken.
And he took no responsibility for it..
Sounds like he has form op.

That sort of attitude and language is completely unacceptable, doubly so in front of young children. I’m sorry to say it but he’s scum.

Your husband shouldn't have thrown the brush or spoke to you that way. He was definitely unreasonable. Does he usually kick off at such small things?

I wouldn't have had an issue with him using it for the dolls hair though, but that's a purely personal decision.

Him. Throwing things, breaking them, speaking to you like that. Is that what you want your daughter to see and be like.

Does he do similar things often?

You say dp? Is he your boyfriend or husband. Is he her dad. I’d not see a future with someone like that.

He’s being unreasonable. He sounds really unpleasant.

Not married. Dc father. I mean he had a long day at work but don't we all

Rude, and really unpleasant. Has something awful happened to him? It’s the sort of thing people do when they are really upset about something else. Ask him.

You don’t seem that shocked by his behaviour which makes me think he does things like this regularly.

Hs is clearly BU by not respecting your wishes (entirely up to you if you want your brush used), not respecting your belongings, having violent outbursts and then blaming you for it afterwards. Get rid of him.

Unless that is majorly out of character, that is something I would consider leaving him over. You don't want your child to see abuse like this as normal

The violence of his words and actions would be a serious concern for me.

Things often escalate. I think it’s important she sees your reaction that it’s not ok. You don’t tell people to shut up. You don’t throw things. You don’t break people’s belongings.
I’d work on basis your relationship won’t last and start getting your ducks in tow. Make sure you prioritise you eg working ft so you can leave if need to.