AIBU to be jealous

[AlphaB3tty]

I'm jealous of the guy in a relationship with the girl I've been seeing. I've met both as a couple and her secretly. They don't live together as she doesn't want that kind of relationship.
She's been married before and is older than him by a couple of years.

So are you in a relationship with her as well as the other guy? Does he know you've been seeing her too.

Well, surely you have to be ok with these kind of things if you’re going to enter into these setups as relationships

Is it the first polyamorous thing you've been involved in? Maybe it's not for you if your instinct it to try and meet the woman alone and get jealous of the man.

All very good responses, thank you. I think it could be cos my marriage is so boring and I want to get out and about more with friends and "others" . I just can't afford to leave.

Why can't you afford to leave?

I'm not clear if this is an affair or a polyamorus relationship.

But I think jealous is probably going to be an issue to be managed in either situation.

You sound like an unguided emotional missile. Not only are you seriously betraying and disrespecting your marriage, you're messing in their relationship too. Frankly you sound too young and immature to be in a relationship with anyone right now.

Have a word with yourself and focus on your own relationship and whether it can be saved. Your wife deserves your honesty and autonomy in her relationship, you don't get to keep her in the dark and make all the decisions.

Try harder.