to want to hide away for the whole of June ?

[summershine101]

We are totally skint for June due to a few large bills we need to pay for. We have zero money for socialising in June. But not sure all my friends will understand this. On paper we are fairly well off, but not in June. I'm happy to have a quiet and boring June and just make the most of the sunshine (wishful thinking) in my garden with the odd bottle of cheap wine and work a load of hours for TOIL in following months. However, there will be expectations for me to join in with social events with some friends who will simply not take no for answer. Happy to have friends over at mine - and I have already offered - but there will be expectations to also go out.

You sound a teensy bit precious about it all. "We're skint come round for pizza or else see you in July" will do.

I did realise it was too late etc BUT for future bills worth considering a better budget so she dosn't face this drama again!!!

Odd thread.

You tell them you haven't any money.

If they are that bothered they can pay for you to go out.

However, there will be expectations for me to join in with social events with some friends who will simply not take no for answer.

They’ll have to if you haven’t got any spare money.

What a bizarre thing to worry about! Do you think they are going to overpower you and force you to draw money out of the bank?!

Tell them that you have some highly contagious disease(s) for the whole of June, like e-coli, norovirus, Impetigo or an STI. Hopefully that should mean they give you a wide berth until you miraculously recover in July.

Learn to say no and tbh if you can't be honest with your friends about being skint for June and they still try to push the issue are they really friends?

Is the problem that you are embarrassed to admit to them that due to big bills in June you don't have any spare cash for socialising in June? Because I can't think of any decent friends who wouldn't back off if they heard that, and suggest picnics/walks/BBQ at home, etc, instead

You've never had surprise bills come in then? Must be so lovely to have such a huge stash of spare money that nothing ever catches you out 😏

You've never had surprise bills come in then? Must be so lovely to have such a huge stash of spare money that nothing ever catches you out 😏 this isn't a surprise as she knows she is skint in June and there is still 2 weeks in May to go

Oh FFS, peak Mumsnet 😄

OP they sound like crap friends but if you don't want conflict just say you're ill...