Have you ever felt like you 'lost yourself'

[crochetmonkey74]

Have you guys ever felt this? I am through a break up and reflecting back and I became a totally different version of myself that I don't even recognise! Anyone had this? and crucially, how did you find yourself again?

Yes. I lost myself desperately the summer of 2021, it took over a year, several breakdowns and counselling but I'm now me again.

After birth of second child. Medication helped.

You're not the only one. Being in a relationship means 'merging' and if the relationship doesn't work you can be left blindsided.

I went through a bad relationship and my friends were extremely confused at the change from my usual friendly happy self.

It may take a while but the most important thing is you: you need to be able to relax and reestablish your own independence and work out your goals.

2020-2022, during lockdowns and 'shielding' (I have a weak immune system). I decided to stop 'shielding' last year after 6 bloody covid jabs, and take my chances. I'm cautious, but far less isolated.

I'm sort of enjoying getting to know myself again- there were whole parts of my personality that I just sort of neglected

I lose myself in every relationship which is why I've decided to stay single. My last break up was very bad and honestly I'd say it took me a good 18 months to really feel myself again and be happy.

What did help me was going away by myself for a while. Time spent alone away from work and everything else. It was good to have that distance and just be alone with me!

Yes, during my marriage, i let my ex husband manipulate me into someone I dont recognise. It took over 4yrs to feel confident again

Yes, I have a lot on my plate, and most of my house is very neurodiverse and while that's absolutely great, I lose me a lot, I think. Their needs take priority over mine and they can't necessarily see me or think of me in the same way. Which is fine, usually, but I'm tired.