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Washing hands after cleaning up after sick child

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jlm122 · 16/05/2023 21:46

My daughter is ill, had diarrhoea and then during another episode of diarrhoea she was sick. I'm not good with sick so her dad helped to clean her up, after that was sorted, daughter was settled and had some water etc, I asked if he'd washed his hands, he'd wiped her bum after the diarrhoea and emptied the jug she was sick into, he said no, and basically said he wasn't going too as he had been too busy helping her? And that I should be grateful he helped instead of asking him questions like this.. I'm not good with sick I have a phobia so am obviously trying to limit the amount of people that end up catching this, I've bleached the bathroom but if he's walking around touching things in the house with his unwashed hands I might as well not bother, he then walked into the kitchen washed his hands for about 2 seconds then walked out.

He's now trying to say that any other person would be more bothered about their child than if the person who'd cleaned them up had washed their hands, my point is that I knew my child was fine, she was settled on the sofa eating a pear at the time I asked him fgs. Aibu for asking him to wash his hands?

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DustyLee123 · 16/05/2023 21:46

YANBU. Dirty bugger.

Hugasauras · 16/05/2023 21:49

I'm not squeamish or emetophobic or anything, but always wash your hands after dealing with someone who has a stomach bug! If you're wiping someone's bum you should always be wiping your hands, stomach bug or not!

jlm122 · 16/05/2023 21:51

Thanks, I am going to show him this btw as he seems genuinely convinced that I've asked him to do something awful

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coloursquare · 16/05/2023 21:52

That's very grim. However, from bitter experience over many years you either catch it or you don't - and they're doesn't seem to be much rhyme or reason. I have stringent hand hygiene and have still managed to catch things, and then other times it's ripped through the house but missed the youngest who puts everything in his mouth!

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 16/05/2023 21:52

That's grim! Yes he will be spreading bugs everywhere. And you can be concerned for a sick child, and also trying to limit infection spread, simultaneously.

But also...pear is quite a brave thing to give a child who has just had d&v!

UndercoverCop · 16/05/2023 21:52

What was he doing when you asked? Still cleaning up? Fair enough I'd do it at the end. Making a cup of tea? 🤢

nocoolnamesleft · 16/05/2023 21:53

He clearly wants to have the squits himself. Only possible reason for being so stupid as to not wash hands in that circumstance.

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 16/05/2023 21:53

If he routinely doesn't wash his hands after wiping bums I think you can make a good guess how your DD got a stomach bug in the first place.

planthelpadvice · 16/05/2023 21:54

Ew no! Always wash your hands very thoroughly after something like that. Gross.

WildNorthEast · 16/05/2023 21:56

Disgusting. It's basic hygiene. Did he learn nothing from Covid?

N0tANOoDl3He4D · 16/05/2023 22:06

OP's husband - seriously, dude. Wash your fucking hands. You may or may not catch it due to cohabiting with the sick person, but you'll definitely catch it and spread it to the rest of the family if you don't wash your hands after changing a puking and shifting kid with a d+v bug!!! Are you an idiot? No? Go wash your hands then you muppet. Kiddo is ok (maybe some dry toast next time though)

mightymam · 16/05/2023 22:09

Urgh- that's bloody grim. The dirty bugger. I'd march him to the shower and hose him down.

EatYourVegetables · 16/05/2023 22:10

Yeah, you’re all going to get ill. Congrats.

Tailfeather · 16/05/2023 22:10

Gross. And risking both you and him getting sick.

RightWhereYouLeftMe · 16/05/2023 22:16

Even if she wasn't ill he should be washing his hands after wiping her bum. Not doing it after she's been sick is disgusting.

RightWhereYouLeftMe · 16/05/2023 22:18

He's also being really inconsiderate of you. Emetophobia is an awful phobia, it can be so debilitating. Even if he thinks it's no big deal to not wash his hands (and I don't know why he'd think this!) just for your sake he should take 30 seconds to just to do.

TomatoSandwiches · 16/05/2023 22:19

He didn't wash his hands after wiping her bottom?
Why are some people so fucking grim, I'd struggle to let him touch me again 🤮

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