To not want to trust my own judgment anymore

[CompetentlyIncompetent]

I know iabu but I'm so fed up (and stressed to the max) about trying to identify whether 2 year old DD is struggling with her breathing or not.

She starts wheezing with every tiny, little cold and I used to be quite good at identifying when the wheezing was serious enough to warrant a visit A n E. Now I've thoroughly confused myself somehow and I keep second guessing myself whether I can hear a wheeze or not.

Right now it's croup. Had to go to A n E yesterday where they gave her a steroid to open up her airways. They said I need to go back if she develops stridor for a second dose. And I just don't know. I keep listening trying to figure it out and it's just too hard. I think it's just a blocked nose but what if I'm wrong. Dh doesn't think it's stridor either, which is why I'm not going to the hospital anyway (at least not yet) but I just hate this constant stress and the constant guilt and worry of potentially missing something important. This shouldn't be left to me. Don't they realise that I'm too incompetent to hear subtle differences in breathing? I mean I know of course there is no other option unless I move in a doctor with me somehow. I'm just ranting. I'm just so worried.

I've kicked off my own poll by voting that iabu.

I just want her to stop being so ill all the time. I am not equipped to judge how serious her illnesses are.

I have a 3 year old who has constant stridor daily even when well..It's taken us this long to get referred to a respiratory specialist. Shes full of a cold again, like you fed up of being left to second guess. Our gp will make us feel ott if we take her, and we are always trying to work out If her breathing is the same/worse when she's unwell!

Would an at home oxygen monitor help? You can buy them pretty cheaply now and if her oxygen levels are low then you know she needs to be seen.

We have used a home oxygen monitor, and have found it helpful. but in our case have also had to learn to tell the subtle signs her breathing has changed. She also has pectus (dipped chest) so is can be hard to tell if shes.pullijg in when breathing or just her usual dip. so signs they tell you to watch for we see daily.