Annoyed at colleague butting in?

[pearlywirlyy]

I have an interim manager and she has asked that during this time I attend her team meetings, although not that relevant to me this manager has done a lot to help me and so I trust her judgment on inviting me (and it’s half an hour of my time once a week)

Theres been some moves in the department and someone else now joins these meetings (they aren’t new and are the same level as me). The meeting has 6 people in it for relevance.

First they asked me why I join them, ok fine whatever. But last week they came and told me they’d spoken to the manager and said that for my benefit I shouldn’t have to stay for the entire meeting.

aibu to think fuck off, it has zero impact on them so I have no idea why they are sticking their beak in.

I’d look them in the eye and tell them you were invited to the meeting and if they have a problem then take it up with the interim manager.

@pearlywirlyy

just say wasn’t my choice I was told to come by person xxxxxx

simple.

ps if some one is butting in

just say let me finish

I would ask them in a normal way why they think this and explain the manager wanted you there. If their reason makes sense then tall to the manager or not depending on of it is needed. Do they think you are spying ? We have 2 parts to our meeting some people leave for the second part. If they began to stay I might begin to ask why it is relevant , but would probably ask manager not colleague.

Tell them you attend because the manager asked you to and that you’ll check in with them directly about whether they want you to remain.

I can’t understand why anyone would fight to attend meetings - there’s way too many in my line of work and I’d be delighted to be let off the hook!

Is there benefit in you staying for the whole meeting? In my experience it's quite common, as a courtesy, to offer 'visitors' from other areas the chance to leave a meeting if something irrelevant is going to be discussed.

I would suggest talking directly to the organiser of the meeting.

It's not like you can ditch them till your manger tells you not to attend 🤷‍♀️

Ignore this other person and check back with the manager who invited you, although tbh I’d be quite happy to have a meeting taken out of my diary most of the time!