How do I catch up??

[QueenDaydreaming]

Day to day tasks are getting away from me and I don’t know how to catch up with myself! I’ve always been a bit last minute, but I currently feel that everything is slipping downhill fast! For example, my DS5 started school in September with four sets of uniform and fourteen pairs of socks. Last week I was washing and drying one set before school, today I just sent him in Friday’s uniform, odd school socks and a promise to myself I’d be better tomorrow. And it’s not just that, it’s everything, me personally, my business, my housework, I feel like I’m losing control very quickly. How do I stop and get myself back on track?? I work from home 7 days a week and paying for a cleaner isn’t an option. I’m not asking DP for help, it’s also not an option, I just need to get back on track on my own. How would you do it?

I do the pub cleaning…😉

Agree. My daughter has 2 skirts and 2 shirts for school. Wash on a Wednesday and we're good

Well that needs so change. As this thread has demonstrated, there’s no way you can do everything, especially not on 4 hours’ sleep a night. Something has to give.

Your husband clearly doesn’t care about the strain this is putting on you (well not enough to do anything about it) but his first solution is correct: employ more staff. And your first recruit should be a cleaner for your home. It will make a world of difference to how frazzled you feel and allow you to focus on your child and the business better.

If you make sure clothes come straight out of the machine and hang to dry you can probably swerve the ironing...

Something has to give here. You are running yourself into the ground. You’re doing everything with the pub and your child whilst still being the dutiful wife making breakfast and bringing him cups of tea! That needs to stop! What example are you setting your child? Will he expect you to do everything because that’s what mum does?

I think it’s basically impossible to offer you any tips because there’s no clever little trick that makes it possible to work all hours and take care of every daily task with no help from anyone. You’re not magic.

If I was to offer some advice I’d say running a business while also wanting to be responsible for all daily tasks plus running round serving your husband coffee and food just isn’t possible. It may be time to look at whether or not you can continue running your own business. Or consider just letting your standards fall. If your son has no socks then send him to his dad. If he has no clean uniform send him in dirty. I do wonder sometimes when I hear about mumsnet husbands what would happen if the mother wasn’t there. Would the children just be neglected? Or would the father figure out how to wash socks?