DESPERATE FOR ADVICE RE NEIGHBOURS

[Wobblybitssaggytits]

Hi everyone so….
I live in a small street, really lovely loads of kids etc great community. Last few month someone has moved onto the street and all hell has broke loose. Police constantly there. She argues with her partner early hours of morning all neighbours are up and fed up with it. This weekend she slashed car tyres and smashed her car up.
I really want to report her but the thing is will housing say it is me? I’ve spoken to her in passing and she has appeared off her head. Not alcohol!! I know this as my ex from years ago abused drugs and can see the signs a mile off. Please advise I’m at my wits end and my anxiety is through the roof. Do I mind my own business or take this further? Thank you

If you complain to the housing supplier/police they keep it confidential. If its that bad doesn't sound like she will be there very long. Good luck 🍀❤️🙏

I doubt you will get far!

It's fairly low level

Arguing with her other half is not a crime, and the council won't be interested unless she's screaming at full pitch in the middle of the night. Nor is smashing up her own car.

Did she slash her own car tyres? Her partners'? Or someone else's.

You can call the council about repeated noise nuisance. Or the police about concerns over domestic violence or criminal damage to your car. Beyond that, I don't think there's much you can do.

Does she have children?

If the police are constantly attending then you have evidence that something is going on. Yes, you should tell the housing department that your neighbour is being a nuisance, she is at least being anti-social. Point out that the police seem to visit regularly. It might be low level at present, but you are building up a picture of what is going on there, the housing officer might only make a note of it, but eventually those notes will add up to action being taken. I am a retired local authority housing officer, if enough people complain with evidence, then it will result in something happening. It might just be a visit ,giving in a warning , I've done that myself, but it can work.

Thanks everyone for your advice
yes it was her partners car she smashed up (lives with partner)
yes she is screaming and shouting in the street.

yes she has young children

police have been 3x this weekend alone

i hate to be that person but it’s honestly causing me so much anxiety. I’m beginning to regret moving here ☹️

Call social services and report to them

I'd focus on the police and social services.
The kids would be better off without all that, and you deserve to be able to live in peace without fear of when she'll next kick off.

I had similar when I lived in flats - eventually she pissed one of the neighbours off to the point of dragging in every public service possible, and she moved shortly afterwards.

That also crossed my mind but I presume police contact them if there is a domestic and kids involved. Poor things were screaming in the street I went up to try and Console them as much as I could but was met with ‘there my fucking kids leave them alone’

Thank you x

Don’t get involved for your stress levels or she’ll likely turn on you. I would make anonymous phone calls to social services regarding what you’ve witnessed with the kids, though.

Police will report to SS if the children were present for any of this, yes. However you can report separately and your eyewitness report will do more for the kids than the police report tbh. I'd send a report about all the issues in one go. You can do it anonymously and online in many areas. If you can't, you can report it via Barnardos or the NSPCC and they will pass it on. Make sure to give names and addresses as well as times, dates and behaviours.

Report to the police every time something is happening. You can report via 101 online if you can't phone. Ring 999 if someone's at risk of harm though or shrs slashing cars again.

Report to housing (association?) every single time as well. Email, online, whatever.

You could also report to your council's antisocial behaviour team.

I say send things in writing where it's not an immediate risk issue, as its easier to show you've reported it each time and it's frequently easier to explain the issues and how they are affecting the neighbours in writing than it is on the phone where the operator may not be able to do anything help you and is just passing info to someone else like with housing.

Yes, they do contact the SS with DV and kids in the home.

I would imagine that family is known to SS already.

I'd report her to SS if you think she's under the influence of narcotics while caring for young children.

I think you won't be the only one reporting her @Wobblybitssaggytits
Those poor kids

If there are specific child related concerns I'd report them to social services, but I'd have little expectation for anything to change. Lots of parents use drugs and it's just monitored, a pretty desperate situation.

Ultimately for people to stabilise their lives any kind of meaningful support is so hard to access, they've got to really want it/be fantastically motivated and disciplined and have a strong support network that can step in - which obviously if this was possible the situation wouldn't have become so dire in the first place.

I see so much of it at work where typically the most support that's offered is a 30minute weekly session/talking therapy. Colloquially it's known as shit life syndrome and there are just so many factors working against improvement/getting out of it - generally neglectful upbringing which didn't teach coping/social/resilience strategies, living in poverty and the stress that brings, low education so difficulty to progress with the barriers in employment, chaotic life so not able to hold down work, prolific alcohol/drug use, normally in abusive relationships... I just think even if you were seeing the most expert psychologist/social worker, if the person just goes back to that environment how on Earth can they be expected to make any progress.

Chaotic people like this are a symptom of the fragmented society we have now. I'm certainly not separate from this, if I had a neighbour like this I'd probably just keep my head down too and not want to get involved/getting drawn in. But the likelihood is the only way her life would settle would be if the community came together to support her for a significant period of time to gain trust and gradually the opportunity for change will present.

If police attending they will have made other authorities aware so do nothing but record loud or abusive behaviour.
If things continue I expect further action may be taken.
But you can manage your reaction to it which will be best for you.
Try some meditation with a guided one through earphones.

I don't think she should do nothing, just because the authorities may already be aware.

It's better for them to have multiple concerns reported. Then they're more likely to act.