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A colleague asked what I was doing at the weekend and I said I’m going to Edinburgh to see my friend.

She responded that she keeps seeing me do nice things (on social media) and wondered where these friends had come from 😐

I’m nice to everyone at work, albeit a bit quiet but quiet people can still have friends. Maybe I’m being sensitive though as she’s made these kind of brash comments before.

Yes, this. Some people have always lived in the same place and/or relinquish friends who move away, and are interested in other people with a more widespread friend network.

Or she might even be being wistful — I remember as a very shy, rather lonely teenager looking at other people’s photos of mountain climbing or at the beach together, and wondering how you got those kinds of relationships.

I'd have asked her what she meant by that remark.

"What do you mean by that?" would have immediately come out of my mouth. Stand up for yourself, op.

It is very hard to tell without knowing more about her intonation and body language. A lot of adults find it very difficult to make and retain friends, so it could be a genuine and positive observation (albeit very poorly worded) about the depth or breadth of your social circle.

Or she be lacking in emotional equipment, and find it inconceivable that a quieter person can have friends.

Did it touch a raw nerve? I sometimes find I react more to comments that hit on one of my insecurities, even if they are made by a person whose good opinion I have no desire to obtain.

If she's just a work colleague, maybe just file her views in the "idiosyncratic opinions" box and not take it personally. Yeah, it's annoying to have someone chip in with their own bizarre hot takes about your life and character, but that's the rich tapestry of life, I suppose.

She’s jealous. You’re being a bit over sensitive. One reason why I am never friends with colleagues on social media! Enjoy Edinburgh!

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I'd be curious too 🤣. Hard to know though without knowing what the person is normally like.

Is she implying that these friends are fictional?

I think that would depend on the tone and general conversation and also how well you get on with the colleague.

On the face of it she's just making conversation and may be a bit envious you're having such a nice time out of work and have worded i clumsily.

If she's a bit of a bitch them maybe she is making digs at you 🤷🏻‍♀️

Sorry more context she previously made a comment where she clearly assumed I never went out.

No idea why she assumed this as it’s not like she asked me what I was doing at the weekend and I said “nothing” every single time:

Shes very loud so maybe she assumes quiet people don’t have friends?