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Facebook photo tagging without permission

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Hello66 · 14/05/2023 08:41

Hi , this might sound petty to some people but it really annoys me . I’ve got a friend who’s photo mad when we go out she literally takes pics of everything & that’s fine but the one thing that really bugs me is that she takes sly pics of me some of which I don’t like and posts them on Fb she thinks it’s fine & laughs it off even if I afl her to delete them or don’t post on social media
If the boot was on the other foot I would definately delete a photo of someone if they asked me.

My privacy settings are on for tagging so she can’t post to my profile but it’s just a shame that we can’t delete photos of ourselves that others have put up on Fb or maybe there is a way that I don’t know about . I know I can untag myself but they’ll still be there

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8misskitty8 · 14/05/2023 08:49

You can report the photos to Facebook stating they are of you and you don’t give permission. They will delete them.

But why on earth are you still friends with this person who enjoys humiliating you ? Stop seeing her then she can’t take photos and post them.

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Hello66 · 14/05/2023 09:28

Thanks for your reply , she’s an old school friend . Some people just don’t see the problem with taking photos of people and posting without permission as I mentioned previously I would dream of doing it to someone to me it’s an invasion of privacy .

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Ourshoddyhouse · 14/05/2023 09:32

You need to update your tag settings too;

Tap in the top right of Facebook.
Scroll down and tap Settings.
Scroll down to Privacy and tap Profile and Tagging.
Tap Who can see posts you're tagged in on your profile?
Select the audience of people (such as Friends) that you'd like to be able to see the posts you've been tagged in

Manage how others can tag or mention your Facebook Page
From your Feed, click Pages in the left menu.
Go to your Page.
Click Settings in the left menu.
From General, click Others Tagging this Page.
Click to uncheck the box next to Allow people and other Pages to tag [Page name].
Click Save Changes.

plasticpens · 14/05/2023 09:34

Can you not simply talk to her?

HappiestSleeping · 14/05/2023 09:36

Ourshoddyhouse · 14/05/2023 09:32

You need to update your tag settings too;

Tap in the top right of Facebook.
Scroll down and tap Settings.
Scroll down to Privacy and tap Profile and Tagging.
Tap Who can see posts you're tagged in on your profile?
Select the audience of people (such as Friends) that you'd like to be able to see the posts you've been tagged in

Manage how others can tag or mention your Facebook Page
From your Feed, click Pages in the left menu.
Go to your Page.
Click Settings in the left menu.
From General, click Others Tagging this Page.
Click to uncheck the box next to Allow people and other Pages to tag [Page name].
Click Save Changes.

This 👆 along with not going anywhere she can take photos of you. I would probably say something along the lines that it really passes you off, and if she doesn't stop, you won't be going anywhere with her again.

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Hello66 · 14/05/2023 09:41

Thanks , I know that it sounds pathetic but it really does piss me off not everyone likes being in random photos & especially posted on social media

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plasticpens · 14/05/2023 09:43

Hello66 · 14/05/2023 09:41

Thanks , I know that it sounds pathetic but it really does piss me off not everyone likes being in random photos & especially posted on social media

I don't think it's pathetic not to want this but I do wonder why you can't have a conversation with her about it?

Sirzy · 14/05/2023 09:51

Surely a conversation with her is the best way to go?

LemonjeIIo · 14/05/2023 09:57

Hello66 · 14/05/2023 09:41

Thanks , I know that it sounds pathetic but it really does piss me off not everyone likes being in random photos & especially posted on social media

Take an utter shit one of her and upload it every time she puts one of you up

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Hello66 · 14/05/2023 10:02

Can’t speak to her she doesn’t understand the harm she’s photo mad and very confident posting photos of heself it’s a shame that Fb don’t give an option of allowing people to completely delete photos that people have tagged them in .

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Hello66 · 14/05/2023 10:04

Thankyou for the advice on tagging I have got it set up so I can review when I’m tagged but that doesn’t stop her posting photos of me to her profile

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ilovesooty · 14/05/2023 10:07

Hello66 · 14/05/2023 10:02

Can’t speak to her she doesn’t understand the harm she’s photo mad and very confident posting photos of heself it’s a shame that Fb don’t give an option of allowing people to completely delete photos that people have tagged them in .

Just stop going anywhere with her then. Why would you continue to be friends with someone who disrespects you?

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Hello66 · 14/05/2023 10:10

Well I’ve known her all my life we grew up in the same area and attended the same school
She doesn’t think the same way as me as I said I wouldn’t dream of posting photos of a friend asked me not to and I most certainly would delete them if a friend asked me to do so

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SquarePegInRoundHole · 14/05/2023 10:14

That would really annoy me. Think the only thing you can do is get a terrible photo of her and post it. She might only understand when it happens to her.

plasticpens · 14/05/2023 10:28

Hello66 · 14/05/2023 10:02

Can’t speak to her she doesn’t understand the harm she’s photo mad and very confident posting photos of heself it’s a shame that Fb don’t give an option of allowing people to completely delete photos that people have tagged them in .

She doesn't have to understand it. You can speak to her; you just choose not to. Tell her you don't want this and if she doesn't respect that she isn't much worth being around anyway

ilovesooty · 14/05/2023 10:37

You don't have to continue to be friends with her because you've known her all your life.

Your choice whether to address this of course.

catchingclouds · 14/05/2023 12:41

It's so annoying when people do that. It's fine to untag yourself or even change your settings to not allow anyone to tag you. However, there is still the problem of a photo of you being on their page which you can't do anything about. You can hide it from your own page but not theirs, so anyone you didnt want to see the photos will no doubt see them anyway.

My friend does this too, I can sympathise. Can you politely request she doesn't take your photo? When she gets her camera out stand to one side or cover your face.

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Hello66 · 14/05/2023 15:53

Hi catchingclouds, it’s really annoying when people don’t listen isn’t it , I think Fb should allow people to delete photos off other peoples pages as you mentioned I can review tags but can’t take them off her page .
she thinks it’s funny that I don’t like my photos posted . I’m happy to have photos taken I just don’t want them posted on any form of social media .

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QueSyrahSyrah · 14/05/2023 15:58

Just tell her straight for goodness sake!

I was away on a girls weekend a while ago with one friend who just wouldn't stop taking pictures and video.

Eventually a serious 'could you please stop that because it's really annoying and we want to see you, not the back of your phone' did the job.

Tell her, give her a chance to stop, if she doesn't then stop going out with her.

CreationNat1on · 14/05/2023 16:02

She is not your friend.

MrsDoylesDoily · 14/05/2023 16:05

Come on OP you're acting like a complete wet lettuce.

TELL the woman never to post photos of you again without your permission.

If she disrespects you by doing it again, ditch the 'friendship'.

Flufs · 14/05/2023 16:06

Tell her! Most people would stop tagging if asked

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