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To have thought they all disliked/were indifferent to me?

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SunnySaturdayy · 13/05/2023 13:04

I recently left a job, and one of the reasons I left was because I felt like I didn't belong there. It was a very social company and I would hate attending the office as every week it seems like there was a social, or happy hour or team lunch and I just felt it all too much.

I dreaded leaving because I felt like I wasn't liked by my colleagues, or at best that they were completely indifferent to me and it would be embarrassing as when people leave they have a meeting and are given a card and gift. I had visions of nobody attending the meeting, or my manager awkwardly handing me a card nobody had signed or trying to awkwardly explain that no one had put money in my collection for a gift.

It was the opposite. Lots of people attended my leaving meeting, and signed my card and I received a generous gift. I had colleagues messaging me on my last day with really kind words, saying I'm easy to work with, lovely, helpful, a valued member of the team, etc. I was really taken aback by it all as I wasn't expecting it at all, I thought I was annoyingly quiet and boring

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Jibo · 13/05/2023 14:03

Not sure what answer you're looking for here. Clearly you were unreasonable as your colleagues liked you but what's done is done.

Everynightisday · 13/05/2023 14:29

OP I had something similar.
I was working in London branch of my old job, I left to move into their other branch, closer to my home.
I also thought I won’t even get a card or anything.
I put my leaving do on a staff room board and expected a couple of people to come ( about 35 people worked in that branch)
I couldn’t literally believe my eyes when about 90% of them turned up, even the top main manager came ( I thought he defo didn’t like me)
He kept hugging me, ordering me drinks, saying how much he will miss me ( he was a guy btw so nothing romantic involved lol)
I actually started regretted leaving, especially when they were talking what will be happening tomorrow, who works with who, where what time etc..
It was all so emotional, I cried, some cried and I got lots of leaving gifts and a massive card with all of them signed.

Then later when I was leaving the other branch to go on maternity leave, I got no card, no gift, nothing and I thought I was loved there.. I can only think it was as most of the people were very young, part timers and perhaps nobody knew much that I’m going to leave soon… I liked working in there.

Everynightisday · 13/05/2023 14:32

*he was a gay btw so nothing romantic involved I meant. ( typo)

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