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AIBU to assume I haven’t got the job?

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Flyonthewall01 · 12/05/2023 17:17

So I had a second/ final interview last friday for a fairly senior position where I was told due to the bank holiday/ staff holidays I’d hear back end of this week but I have heard absolutely nothing?
This whole process has been going on since early march so they are clearly very slow at everything but do I assume I haven’t gotten it?
It’s not the end of the world if I don’t get it as I’m reasonably happy in my current role but I feel like I’m on edge because I don’t know either way

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wagasallday · 12/05/2023 17:21

I would wait till mid next week, possibly there was a hold up today

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 12/05/2023 17:22

They might have offered it to someone else and waiting to hear back from them. I wouldn't give up just yet.

Flyonthewall01 · 12/05/2023 17:23

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 12/05/2023 17:22

They might have offered it to someone else and waiting to hear back from them. I wouldn't give up just yet.

This is true although I’d hate to be second choice, not that I’d ever know that 😂

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Mandalor · 12/05/2023 17:24

I hate the not knowing!

I would have thought they'd have let you know if you were successful.

In my experience, with successful interviews I'd be offered the role sooner than I thought or on the day the company said they'd decide by, and any interviews that weren't successful I either wouldn't hear back at all or would be later than thought with a no thank you.

Personally I think it's a red flag if a company doesn't get back in touch when they say they will!

HelpMeGetThrough · 12/05/2023 17:24

wagasallday · 12/05/2023 17:21

I would wait till mid next week, possibly there was a hold up today

Yep, I'd do the same too. It's been a short week and a fair amount of people have taken the whole week off.

If this has been going on since mid March, they aren't sounding quick on the process.

Flyonthewall01 · 12/05/2023 17:29

Mandalor · 12/05/2023 17:24

I hate the not knowing!

I would have thought they'd have let you know if you were successful.

In my experience, with successful interviews I'd be offered the role sooner than I thought or on the day the company said they'd decide by, and any interviews that weren't successful I either wouldn't hear back at all or would be later than thought with a no thank you.

Personally I think it's a red flag if a company doesn't get back in touch when they say they will!

This is what I’d say to anyone else but then if I was a straight up no wouldn’t they have also told me straight away?

ugh I hate this 😂

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Flyonthewall01 · 12/05/2023 17:30

HelpMeGetThrough · 12/05/2023 17:24

Yep, I'd do the same too. It's been a short week and a fair amount of people have taken the whole week off.

If this has been going on since mid March, they aren't sounding quick on the process.

This is what I like to think but I could be just being optimistic!

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BistoBear · 12/05/2023 17:33

I was in a similar position last year, they said successful candidates would hear by the following Friday. I emailed the department head at 1705hrs on the Friday, something along the lines of “I’m assuming I’ve been unsuccessful as I haven’t heard from you. Can I please have interview feedback?” Similar to you, the whole process had been slow with poor communication.

I shut my laptop and vowed to forget about it until after the weekend as I assumed I wouldn’t get a reply until the Monday.

On the Saturday evening, I started to worry that my email was cheeky and that I shouldn’t have sent it. Mentioned it to my husband, he asked me to read out what I sent. Well, I could’ve fell off the sofa, she had emailed back 9am that morning. Apologised for the delay, they had staff sicknesses and that had delayed things. But that she was delighted to tell me, unofficially, that I had been successful 😅😅 I eventually got official notification the following Thursday 😂😂

Playgrind · 12/05/2023 17:41

That's great @BistoBear and gives me hope.

I'm also waiting for a job offer, was told they'd make offers on the 12th so 'keep your phone on'.

The job is crucial for my mortgage application and could really do with right now.

IVe also sent feedback/gimme the job email.

Fingers crossed!

Aspargustips · 12/05/2023 17:45

can you email and ask?

The problem is to you (and me when I was waiting to hear back recently!) it consumes our mind but bear in mind people will be busy, likely holidays around a bank holiday weekend they might have got delayed

most companies tell you if you haven’t been successful asap once they’ve offered the role so no news is good news in that respect

Flyonthewall01 · 12/05/2023 17:48

BistoBear · 12/05/2023 17:33

I was in a similar position last year, they said successful candidates would hear by the following Friday. I emailed the department head at 1705hrs on the Friday, something along the lines of “I’m assuming I’ve been unsuccessful as I haven’t heard from you. Can I please have interview feedback?” Similar to you, the whole process had been slow with poor communication.

I shut my laptop and vowed to forget about it until after the weekend as I assumed I wouldn’t get a reply until the Monday.

On the Saturday evening, I started to worry that my email was cheeky and that I shouldn’t have sent it. Mentioned it to my husband, he asked me to read out what I sent. Well, I could’ve fell off the sofa, she had emailed back 9am that morning. Apologised for the delay, they had staff sicknesses and that had delayed things. But that she was delighted to tell me, unofficially, that I had been successful 😅😅 I eventually got official notification the following Thursday 😂😂

Ah that’s amazing! Yay!
I know what you mean about post email regret though which is why I’m a little scared to chase it up

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Flyonthewall01 · 12/05/2023 17:50

Aspargustips · 12/05/2023 17:45

can you email and ask?

The problem is to you (and me when I was waiting to hear back recently!) it consumes our mind but bear in mind people will be busy, likely holidays around a bank holiday weekend they might have got delayed

most companies tell you if you haven’t been successful asap once they’ve offered the role so no news is good news in that respect

I’ve thought about emailing them but I’m too much of a wuss! I might leave it a few more days like others have said and see if I hear anything next week. It really does over occupy your mind and the thing is I wasn’t even bothered about the job it’s just the not knowing!!

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SpringViolet · 12/05/2023 18:34

I’m awaiting a big interview decision as well. It’s so stressful! Application early March. Ist interview in April with long assessment, final interview on Weds so really strung out too. I was shocked I’d got to final interview as they had over a thousand applicants!

It’s a job I really, really want as fully remote, double my last salary and means going from an entry level role, after a long career break, back into a senior level role similar to what I was doing before I became a SAHM.

I’d hoped to hear by the end of today too but they did say it might be early next week.

Really worried I’ve fluffed it as I thought I’d been very well prepared but one of the panel had a confused face a few times and keep asking me to elaborate further. It was a right grilling!

The suspense is driving me nuts especially as I had another interview on the same day in the afternoon and was offered that role within an hour of that interview ending!

I’ve actually turned that down as realised I didn’t actually want that job compared to the other one (lower pay and office based 30 mins on the motorway) and they wanted me go in today to show passport, and give bank details. They rang me this afternoon and asked if there was anything they could do to change my mind, although can’t change it being office based as that is non negotiable. It was confidence building they were so keen on me I suppose!

Really tough decision as I didn’t want them to start the onboarding process because if I got the other job, I’d have wasted their time.

Fingers crossed for good news for us next week!

IME if you’re unsuccessful, it’s not a priority to inform you (if they bother at all) unfortunately.

Playgrind · 19/05/2023 17:42

Popping back to add a little update - exactly week after I was told told I'd hear, I got offered rhe job!

They are waiting for some funding to be signed off so not ideal for me, not sure if the new job will support mortgage affordability but happy about it nonetheless.

Hope others got a happy ending too

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