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Man weeing in the street

83 replies

Dailywalk · 12/05/2023 16:12

Yabu - if you gotta go, you gotta go

yanbu- beyond the potty training years, pissing in the street is completely unacceptable.

for context this was busy street, near schools, at 3:30pm today while I was walking my child home from school. Man pissing up against a home’s garden wall.

OP posts:
Saysageandlash · 12/05/2023 23:00

MumOfASuperSon · 12/05/2023 17:48

Disgusting.

Not so long ago, my DH was walking the dog in broad daylight and caught a delivery guy pissing up a tree near our DC school. He told him he looked like a dirty pervert and to fuck off. The guy quickly zipped up and scurried off.

I don’t know what the hell is wrong with some people.

To be fair I think delivery drivers are in genuine difficulty sometimes because their schedule is so tight they are not allowed pit stops and literally they are driving around places with no public facilities. That must be a horrible situation to be in every day.

kitsuneghost · 12/05/2023 23:04

PurposefulBear · 12/05/2023 22:43

I saw a man puss up the wall of Waitrose a couple of weeks ago, just by the front door. Then he went in and harassed the lady on the counter for cigarettes, hands all over everything in there. I think he was drunk, definitely not English. Either way he was utterly vile.

Is foreigner piss different like?

PurposefulBear · 12/05/2023 23:05

Redebs · 12/05/2023 22:48

What's his nationality got to do with it? Was he holding his passport at the time?

He might as well have been.

DobbysTeaCosy · 12/05/2023 23:44

kitsuneghost · 12/05/2023 21:33

This is silly. I have never known a women to piss herself in a meeting either. I don't mean to belittle your issues but I have heard of women having little leaks but not a full on pee in a meeting. That has got to be rare. Anyway let's move on, I feel we are getting side tracked into personal issues.

Men should refrain from peeing in public and if they can't hold then find somewhere more discreet.

Also think councils need to step up and supply more toilets

Well that's my point. Neither men or women should pee any and everywhere. Women learn how to plan and navigate as men should do. It's not difficult.
And your point was ridiculous, which is why the 'sidetrack' occured.
No man has so weak a pelvic floor peeing in public is his only option and those that do should wear adult nappies.

kitsuneghost · 12/05/2023 23:56

DobbysTeaCosy · 12/05/2023 23:44

Well that's my point. Neither men or women should pee any and everywhere. Women learn how to plan and navigate as men should do. It's not difficult.
And your point was ridiculous, which is why the 'sidetrack' occured.
No man has so weak a pelvic floor peeing in public is his only option and those that do should wear adult nappies.

Ah I see where you are coming from. You just slightly misinterpreted my post. But we shall let it go now (no pun intended)

DobbysTeaCosy · 13/05/2023 00:07

kitsuneghost · 12/05/2023 23:56

Ah I see where you are coming from. You just slightly misinterpreted my post. But we shall let it go now (no pun intended)

And you must have misunderstood mine.

IfICouldIStillWouldNot · 13/05/2023 00:31

Some men will take any opportunity to spit, piss or masturbate in the most inappropriate/public place they dare. I presume this is to do with their "marking" hormones being out of whack.

Jonniecomelately · 13/05/2023 00:39

We had builders doing work on our house for months and they never used the loo, even though i offered. Can only guess they went in the garden when I wasn't looking.

With delivery drivers,I guess if you're driving all day and paid per parcel then you go when you need to go. Easier if you have an office job!

Pepperama · 13/05/2023 00:44

I remember a guy doing that to a friend’s house wall. She said it happened regularly as it was next to a pub so she had a can of water ready and chucked it out of her top floor window over the chap and shouted ‘you forgot to flush’. Won’t ever forget the guy’s face

MrsDoylesDoily · 13/05/2023 00:49

YANBU, it's completely unacceptable.

My friend saw a woman actually shitting on the little amenity green outside her front door last year! 🙈🙈

ALLiDOisWIN · 13/05/2023 01:09

I was taking my kids home from school one time and there was this man peeing at the end of my driveway right next to his car that he parked also at the end of my driveway! If I didn't have kids in the car I would have stopped and given him some bollocking but didn't want my kids to be exposed to this so kept on driving. Still bugs me whenever I remember this!

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 13/05/2023 01:33

The football match goers do it against the cars in our street in match days when walking to the local stadium. Despite being videos and photographed, neither they, the football stadium or police car.
Broad daylight, on a residential, terraced street, where the majority of homes have there front room as the family room and have young children.

MovinGroovinBarbie · 13/05/2023 01:53

MumOfASuperSon · 12/05/2023 17:48

Disgusting.

Not so long ago, my DH was walking the dog in broad daylight and caught a delivery guy pissing up a tree near our DC school. He told him he looked like a dirty pervert and to fuck off. The guy quickly zipped up and scurried off.

I don’t know what the hell is wrong with some people.

What!!?!

A guy who drives around all day usually working to a brutally tight schedule with no immediate access to a toilet? And in an industry with a median age of 55yo and hence likely a weaker bladder. Probably rushing to get to his next job in the delivery window before he worries about finding a loo (and possibly occasionally misjudges it or hits unexpected traffic/roadworks).

I drive trucks for a living and being caught short is one of my biggest issues/fears, which is why some amazon drivers are literally shitting in buckets in the back of their vans. The vast majority of the public work in environments where the toilet is less than a minute away and they're not being tracked for every minute and potentially penalised financially through loss of bonuses when late. They generally have no idea.

When I'm desperately needing a wee whilst sitting in bad traffic in the town centre....well, it's a fucking nightmare. You can't just pull into McDonalds or any car park because most have height restrictors and you need a whole row of spaces to park. And if you're lucky enough to find somewhere you can be assured some helpful soul will report you to your employer for parking there or take photos and post them online tagging the company.

You can't even plan ahead because with how hot it gets in trucks you need to stay hydrated and it can come on quick - in our truck without a/c it was the same temp as outside (34°C) when driving with windows down last summer and was 44°C when pulled up onsite with windows closed to prevent dust ingress from the shovels thundering past - thankfully this is usually only necessary for around five mins. You need to drink lots of water to stay hydrated and safe to drive in that heat when you're wearing work trousers, plasticky hi viz, and a long sleeved shirt underneath (site safety requirement). You're usually sitting right above the engine.

I can't even keep an emergency bucket in the back as I drive construction vehicles like mixers and tippers that don't have an enclosed space at the rear. How I envy the men sometimes and how easy they can take a tiddle!

A combination of stopping to find a toilet and then hitting unexpected traffic could see my concrete setting in the drum permanently and ruining it to a cost easily over £10k when you consider downtime. A lot more if your client has a loss of earnings clause and can charge back the wages for the workers they now have to pay for sitting around unable to work due to no materials delivered. I'd quite honestly prefer to piss myself in that situation and have the seat reupholstered rather than pay for a new drum, the downtime, and maybe client losses.

So if I was a bloke I'd absolutely piss against a tree in a moment of desperation, and being self employed I'd tell your husband to fuck right off without a second thought. No driver wants to urinate in public and most workers in other sectors have the privilege of never needing to.

NotMeSecretFormular · 13/05/2023 02:26

No. Vile.
Literally 30 seconds away from the school gate a mum let her kid pull her pants down and piss on the pavement a couple of weeks ago. Kid was about 7. Great parenting.
Caught up with the same pair totally at random at my local vets. Kid took a guinea pig out of the carrier and chucked it down on the floor in reception - it could only use its front legs to drag itself around because it had been dropped on its back and had spinal damage. What the fuck is wrong with people?!

MovinGroovinBarbie · 13/05/2023 02:30

So when your job entails going lengthy periods without access to a toilet, what do you do on the odd occasion where you're 'caught short'?

Do you just sit in the car seat and let it run?

EveryWitchWaybutLoose · 13/05/2023 08:23

Men are just appalling aren’t they. And I write that with no irony or sarcasm whatsoever.

Whatabouteverything · 13/05/2023 08:38

Sounds exactly like something a paedophile would do. I would have stood a little way off from him and called 999 on the basis he's got his penis out for all to see at 3.30pm on a busy street. That'd the crux of it. I also would have filmed him in case he's a known offender. I would never let someone like this get off lightly.

Whatabouteverything · 13/05/2023 08:41

MovinGroovinBarbie · 13/05/2023 01:53

What!!?!

A guy who drives around all day usually working to a brutally tight schedule with no immediate access to a toilet? And in an industry with a median age of 55yo and hence likely a weaker bladder. Probably rushing to get to his next job in the delivery window before he worries about finding a loo (and possibly occasionally misjudges it or hits unexpected traffic/roadworks).

I drive trucks for a living and being caught short is one of my biggest issues/fears, which is why some amazon drivers are literally shitting in buckets in the back of their vans. The vast majority of the public work in environments where the toilet is less than a minute away and they're not being tracked for every minute and potentially penalised financially through loss of bonuses when late. They generally have no idea.

When I'm desperately needing a wee whilst sitting in bad traffic in the town centre....well, it's a fucking nightmare. You can't just pull into McDonalds or any car park because most have height restrictors and you need a whole row of spaces to park. And if you're lucky enough to find somewhere you can be assured some helpful soul will report you to your employer for parking there or take photos and post them online tagging the company.

You can't even plan ahead because with how hot it gets in trucks you need to stay hydrated and it can come on quick - in our truck without a/c it was the same temp as outside (34°C) when driving with windows down last summer and was 44°C when pulled up onsite with windows closed to prevent dust ingress from the shovels thundering past - thankfully this is usually only necessary for around five mins. You need to drink lots of water to stay hydrated and safe to drive in that heat when you're wearing work trousers, plasticky hi viz, and a long sleeved shirt underneath (site safety requirement). You're usually sitting right above the engine.

I can't even keep an emergency bucket in the back as I drive construction vehicles like mixers and tippers that don't have an enclosed space at the rear. How I envy the men sometimes and how easy they can take a tiddle!

A combination of stopping to find a toilet and then hitting unexpected traffic could see my concrete setting in the drum permanently and ruining it to a cost easily over £10k when you consider downtime. A lot more if your client has a loss of earnings clause and can charge back the wages for the workers they now have to pay for sitting around unable to work due to no materials delivered. I'd quite honestly prefer to piss myself in that situation and have the seat reupholstered rather than pay for a new drum, the downtime, and maybe client losses.

So if I was a bloke I'd absolutely piss against a tree in a moment of desperation, and being self employed I'd tell your husband to fuck right off without a second thought. No driver wants to urinate in public and most workers in other sectors have the privilege of never needing to.

It's funny though how women everywhere manage it. There's a million supermarkets to stop in for 2 minutes. Most men don't even wash their hands so it barely takes you a couple of minutes. Women don't seem to have this issue where they would stand out in public and piss all over the floor. In the middle of the fucking day too- near a school?? What part of any of this do you find acceptable. You need to take a long hard look at yourself if this is something you do. Also good for them shitting in the back of their vans rather than in the street as apparently that's ok for urine 🙄

Excited101 · 16/05/2023 22:14

Thanks @louderthan i wish it had felt poetic at the time, rather than nauseating

Catsmere · 16/05/2023 22:45

MrsDoylesDoily · 13/05/2023 00:49

YANBU, it's completely unacceptable.

My friend saw a woman actually shitting on the little amenity green outside her front door last year! 🙈🙈

I once saw a woman letting her son (toddler) shit in the gutter of a busy shopping street immediately outside a public toilet.

MovinGroovinBarbie · 17/05/2023 12:47

Whatabouteverything · 13/05/2023 08:41

It's funny though how women everywhere manage it. There's a million supermarkets to stop in for 2 minutes. Most men don't even wash their hands so it barely takes you a couple of minutes. Women don't seem to have this issue where they would stand out in public and piss all over the floor. In the middle of the fucking day too- near a school?? What part of any of this do you find acceptable. You need to take a long hard look at yourself if this is something you do. Also good for them shitting in the back of their vans rather than in the street as apparently that's ok for urine 🙄

Women everywhere manage it? Parking a 40ft truck in a car park with a height restrictor where you wouldn't have space to park anyway even if you could fit under the restrictor?

Might help to actually read the post you're replying to if you're going to leave a snarky reply. 🙄

MovinGroovinBarbie · 17/05/2023 12:49

And if you're right then how come so many women rave on about the invention of the SheWee? Or are they using them in public toilets? 🤔

ReliantRobyn · 17/05/2023 12:49

Yellowdays · 12/05/2023 17:18

Near school at that time does suggest a pervert unfortunately. If it happens again, tell the police and the school.

As the saying goes: pee at 3, wet your knee. Pee at 3.22, there's a pervert for you.

Cas112 · 17/05/2023 13:52

He was either a piss head or a pervert

Blarn · 17/05/2023 13:59

I always thought it really odd that a man simply couldn't wait and had to go in place where he could be seen, as I have witnessed a few times since my teens. Then recently realised it's exposure. They want you to see.