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To ask your crush crushing strategies pls

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SaulSobieski · 12/05/2023 11:14

How to crush a crush?

I'm picturing him getting married, their wedding photos, their home life together etc.

Anything else worked for any former crushees?

Thank you.

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SaulSobieski · 12/05/2023 13:14

Anyway, yes - distraction would be a good strategy.

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FallopianTubeTrain · 12/05/2023 13:16

If it's who i think it is, I've heard he says Pacific when he means specific and doesn't stack the dishwasher properly, so nothing really gets clean. His favourite McDonald's menu item is the fillet o'fish and you have to wait in the grill order bay at the drive thru every fucking time so they can make him one without cheese.

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SaulSobieski · 12/05/2023 13:19

FallopianTubeTrain · 12/05/2023 13:16

If it's who i think it is, I've heard he says Pacific when he means specific and doesn't stack the dishwasher properly, so nothing really gets clean. His favourite McDonald's menu item is the fillet o'fish and you have to wait in the grill order bay at the drive thru every fucking time so they can make him one without cheese.

😂

I'm don't have a dish washer.

He looks like a burger kinda guy. You couldn't maintain those muscles on fish lol

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SaulSobieski · 12/05/2023 13:22

I'm not going in the right direction here 😆

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SaulSobieski · 12/05/2023 13:23

5128gap · 12/05/2023 13:07

He's just a bloke. And once the novelty wore off he'd be just as prone to being annoying and boring as any other. Plus other faults you don't even know about. Chances are he's no improvement on the one you've got, and better the devil you know.

You are always a font of wisdom 5128gap and here is no exception.

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FKATondelayo · 12/05/2023 13:30

There's nothing you can do about having a crush. You can manage it by avoidance and being busy doing and thinking about other things. Eventually your mind will get bored and move onto other things or he will do something that gives you the ick. Hopefully you will do something really awkward / embarrassing in front of him and that will help kill it.

Otherwise just roll with it and enjoy it. Crushes do help when it comes to looking good and keeping your game up.

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SaulSobieski · 12/05/2023 13:40

Hopefully you will do something really awkward / embarrassing in front of him and that will help kill it.

Fk, no.

Crushes do help when it comes to looking good and keeping your game up.

That's true. That's a good side effect.

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SaulSobieski · 12/05/2023 13:41

Hopefully you will do something really awkward / embarrassing in front of him and that will help kill it.

I'll get the floaty dress and g-string lined up for the sports day Mums race then.

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5128gap · 12/05/2023 13:41

@SaulSobieski 😊

Leopardprintisaneutral · 12/05/2023 13:58

I have finally managed to get over one that has endured for ages. I imagined him voting Conservative - instant vagina dryness for me!

Fairowing · 12/05/2023 14:08

Flirt and try some chat up lines - is he definitely definitely in a relationship or are you just thinking “how could he not be?!”

FartSock5000 · 12/05/2023 14:22

@SaulSobieski understand that you are projecting something onto him that appeals to you that doesn't really exist.

I've had a crush on a guy I went to primary school with. 32 years my heart has fluttered for the person my brain wants him to be but in reality he is a skeezy creep with a small tadger and nowhere near as attractive as I think.

I don't crush so hard on him now my eyes are opened.

Bintymcbintface · 12/05/2023 14:24

Imagine what they'd look like eating a large tub of yogurt with a teeny tiny spoon

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SaulSobieski · 12/05/2023 14:45

Bintymcbintface · 12/05/2023 14:24

Imagine what they'd look like eating a large tub of yogurt with a teeny tiny spoon

Lol how random

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SaulSobieski · 12/05/2023 14:47

FartSock5000 · 12/05/2023 14:22

@SaulSobieski understand that you are projecting something onto him that appeals to you that doesn't really exist.

I've had a crush on a guy I went to primary school with. 32 years my heart has fluttered for the person my brain wants him to be but in reality he is a skeezy creep with a small tadger and nowhere near as attractive as I think.

I don't crush so hard on him now my eyes are opened.

So you shagged him and realised he's not all that; at least you got to do that.

Though you're right in saying any crush is as or more likely to turn out that way (as opposed to being the wonderful, hung sex god you imagine they are).

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SaulSobieski · 12/05/2023 14:55

Fairowing · 12/05/2023 14:08

Flirt and try some chat up lines - is he definitely definitely in a relationship or are you just thinking “how could he not be?!”

I haven't checked him out for a wedding ring but I'd say he's married. If not, he's in a partnership - pretty sure his partner/wife walked the 2 children in with him a couple of times.

(I didn't have a crush then, I just noticed & was curious re. what manner of creature could land such a confident and fit (in both meanings of the word) specimen of manhood.

Turns out, an ordinary (by no means unattractive but not well above average looks, I mean) lady.
Obviously looks are only one factor, before I rightly get accused of being shallow).

Anyway sadly - "how could he not be in a relationship" about an attractive, well adjusted man - is usually true. Especially in our parochial region.

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SaulSobieski · 12/05/2023 14:57

Leopardprintisaneutral · 12/05/2023 13:58

I have finally managed to get over one that has endured for ages. I imagined him voting Conservative - instant vagina dryness for me!

This could work for me with trump, conspiracy theories etc.

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SaulSobieski · 12/05/2023 15:11

GoldDuster · 12/05/2023 12:47

Enjoy it, are hot dads not one of the perks of the school run?

Just don't do anything about it.

It's new to me. That's given a bit of perspective 😁

We are hard done by though (in my area anyway) because most school runners are female. So the Dads get way more eye candy.

We have several examples of swishy pony tail (stole that from another poster), perfect makeup, lycra legging wearing yummy, mummies too. Dragged through a hedge backwards is my general vibe.

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supersop60 · 13/05/2023 08:20

I agree with a pp. Do nothing. Don't look out for him, don't accidentally bump into him, don't start a conversation. Once that happens you've crossed a line.

CrystalCoco · 13/05/2023 08:28

Another vote for 'lean into it' - just enjoy crushing on him: in your spare time - not going googly-eyed at the school gates!

Knowing nothing will come of it you can let your imagination go wild, just don't ever tell anyone!

Noodles1234 · 13/05/2023 08:30

I’m guessing you don’t want the feelings for this person?

instead of picturing them happily married, picture the arguments, them cheating on you and poss divorce, them not helping with the chores, petty family quarrels and everyday stuff. Neither are reality but the latter is more possible than everyday bliss with perfection.

“you are enough” for you.

AllotmentTime · 13/05/2023 08:47

Read all the threads on here about sport mad blokes who spend all weekend on their bikes completely obsessed by gym, protein powder and times, checked out of family life and doing absolutely nothing with their families.

Your guy does the school run and thinks he’s god’s fucking gift for it. If you asked him to find a bin liner or make the spag bol he’d have no bloody clue. Years since he heard his kids read or spent a meal time with them not glued to his phone planning a new run route. He’s not interested in sex, interferes too much with his training routine. Candlelit dinner would be the wrong amount of calories and he’d rather have an ice bath than a romantic one.

…that help?? 😆

MeinKraft · 13/05/2023 08:50

Imagine the smell of their feet.

Undertherock · 13/05/2023 09:15

I’m glad you asked. This is my area of expertise

Diversify - cast around for a celebrity crush or let your imagination run amok about a few different guys at the supermarket.

Make a complete tit of yourself in front of him.

Fantasise about him picking his nose or cutting his toenails…in bed.

If all else fails, read some serious feminist literature.

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SaulSobieski · 13/05/2023 09:35

I’m glad you asked. This is my area of expertise

Lol

Diversify - cast around for a celebrity crush or let your imagination run amok about a few different guys at the supermarket

Celeb, I can do. Good idea.
Supermarkets are distinctly lacking in attractive men around here.

Make a complete tit of yourself in front of him.

Someone else suggested that, would anyone actually do that?!
Not for me; it would be entirely accidental if I did, cringing at just the thought.

Fantasise about him picking his nose or cutting his toenails…in bed.

These are good.

If all else fails, read some serious feminist literature.

While it certainly gives perspective to male - female relationships... It doesn't turn off the horn for a hot bloke.

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