No photos/videos at school event

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Went to an event put on my the local council, 10 different schools all coming together under one roof to collaborate and participate as a group. The usual ‘no photography/videoing’ advice is issued and one set of parents from the school my son attends is snapping away on their phone. Get asked not to, still carry on secretly doing it. These are grown adults. Then smugly show everyone after what they have taken. I’m so outraged by them, don’t they think that everyone would like to take photos? They have them now of not just their child but either of the whole school group but also close ups of my child. I feel so pissed off that people have such a blatant disregard for safeguarding. I know I’m being irrational, I just need to vent!

@Nanny0gg to be fair, as a member of the PTA and personal friends with a number of parents (and therefore on many groups on fb etc.) I've never seen anyone put pictures of the events on social media and they'd soon be reported if they did - I would certainly report any instances of this.

Ok everyone I apologise. Maybe I’m just too old to understand how photos can be used these days. I remember my parents taking a camera to my school plays.
Ive not encountered a problem myself but reading through yeah I get it now so Sorry Mumsnet Mums. Seems nothing can be held sacred these days, very sad times indeed.

Completely agree that those people are selfish and stupid.
However - I wish schools would EXPLAIN CLEARLY/spell out the (safeguarding) issues. A lot of people simply don't understand ... and may be (at least a few) would comply more readily if they did.

Are you me? My kid is adopted one tray picture on Facebook means he is unsafe and we have to move schools. Dangerous family nearby too!

When you tell us they are getting a far superior education in the Czech Republic than "here", are you "here"? Because my kids got far superior parenting "here" than they would if I packed them off somewhere else, however great the choice of activities "there".

That is difficult to spell out though without effectively announcing that there are kids at risk in the school- it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to work out who those kids are.

there were very vulnerable children at my dc’s primary. Most worked it out because of the absolute blanket no photos in school rule. The children all knew because kids talk- one was in dc’s class and let slip snippets of their life prior to being removed by SS and why they didn’t live with mum and dad - pretty horrific stuff.

if you’re an acquaintance of the family and school announces you can’t take pictures because of vulnerable children, you’re going to dig, and report back.

My ex moved back to the Czech Republic in 2017 when our daughter was due to start primary school. She didn’t get into the school we wanted and my ex said that I couldn’t just offer them money to give her a place because things don’t work like that anymore. She was a Nursery teacher and still is over there and also now interprets for Corporate Companies at meetings.
Anyway to cut a long story short, since you asked, the parenting our children get is excellent from both of us I work and live here to provide properly for our family and I paid off her mortgage on her house there when she went home so they have a permanent safe home. They are thriving in their English school over there and receiving a proper rounded education rather than being taught to the test which British education seems to have become since my day plus politically correct woke nonsense tailored to whatever pathetic whim is currently fashionable is not brought into the classroom.
They’ll go further than I ever could have in life and yes the school is privately funded partly by me and my beloved ex and partly by the scholarship our children earned for themselves.
State comprehensive never did me any good.

We obviously have very different values and priorities.

Well mine is doing whatever I can to make sure my children have the best I can provide in my own way as I’m sure yours is too so on that we agree.

I genuinely think people should be arrested for this

While it’s understandable that schools ask for children not to be photographed on their premises, IMO the ship on being able to prevent children from being photographed and put on social media has long since sailed.

We have more CCTV than any other country in the world. Children are on social media before they leave primary, no they shouldn’t be, but they are. And it is inevitable that the majority of children will be photographed and video’d and would be traceable even if the parents aren’t on social media and the schools prevent pictures from being taken.

In the park, at the pool, at children’s parties, walking down the street, in any shop…

The schools predominantly prohibit photos because it’s annoying to have people jumping up and down with cameras all the time, and so that they’re not implicated if a child is traced.

Mumsnet moderators please delete all my posts from this thread. It’s getting beyond ridiculous now.

@Colourfingers2 · Colourfingers2 · if you report your posts and ask for them to be removed mnhq will do so.

if someone would rather a child miss out or be put at risk so they can take photos they’re a twat.

This. My (adopted) DS was the reason the school nativity couldn't be filmed one year. I had to listen to other parents whinging 'why should their DC suffer' by not getting a film of the play. Compared to what my DS had endured before coming to me, the idea that not having your KS1 nativity filmed was 'suffering' saw those parents plummet in my estimation.

Several local schools here put a lot of photos online themselves. One does weekly photos of the reception children including photos of each individual child with their name and work they have done. I was having a look through because considering that school for my child next year. I saw a child in the park and recognised him from the photos. Weirdly I know his name and what he's been doing at school, what class he's in etc. Obviously they wouldn't do it if a child was at risk but I still think it's far too much info out there.

It’s not nonces that are the problem.

I know of a child who was in hiding from their father who was tracked down by him due to one Facebook post.
A parent had completely innocently taken a picture at a school event and posted it on Facebook, a friend like the post, this made the post visible to someone they were friends with who recognised a child in the background as that of another friend. Knowing that his friend was trying to locate his estranged child he showed his friend the post who then tracked down the child and mother.

That is just one case I know of, I’m sure it’s not the only one.

My child cannot have her photo taken. So many times I've been labelled that parent or been put in difficult circumstances by the school because they fail to safeguard my child appropriately. So many comments by parents too who simply do not get it.

It's not by choice, it's a huge safeguarding risk.

Did anyone call them out on it?

The problem is that there is always a group of people who think the rules don’t apply to them.

But that could be too late...

I am not telling parents that my ex was so violent and abusive that he has no contact and a non mol. Or that he doesn't know where we are and if he finds us we could be in danger.

If a school says no photography for safeguarding reasons parents should comply or leave. It's not down to them knowing the finer details and making a judgment themselves.

So your kid is in a private school. That is what makes it better. Not necessarily that it’s in Czechia.

Agree.

bloody hell what did everyone do before social media you'll live get over it

not you op