“Living well is the best revenge.” Is this true?

[Plainbobgrandsire]

My ex seems to think so.

Pressed too soon!

So, any movement forward in my life, anything nice that happens, especially if it’s financially related, he goes out of his way to spoil. And that’s because I don’t deserve to have a nice life and I’m deliberately rubbing his nose in it by being happy, and he actively gets off on winding me up.

So, in his case, my great revenge really is to live well. He still gets on my wick though and I wish I didn’t have to “rise above.”

Can you give examples?

Yes it absolutely is.

Yes. Not because the other person is jealous if you have a good life, but because if you live well enough, you stop caring how they feel about it, and THAT is the best revenge - having them not matter to you any more.

Yes, I massively out earn my ex, even though we broke up when I was pregnant, put myself through uni a second time, bought my own (small home) worked hard to get promotions.

He dithered, wasted his degree, job hopped so he didn't have to pay me money, lived in dingy flats until he met his gf and moved into her house. He resents every penny he gives me especially as I am clearly doing better than he is in spite of being the parent doing all the care for DD (my parents supported massively with child care) as he only sees her a day a week.