DH has had his car for 3-and-a-half years and has never had it valeted. Don't know if he's ever cleaned it himself either (I've done it when it's gotten out of hand).
I'm one week pp but I asked him to get it valeted before having the baby. I cleaned the front of it and offered to pay for a valet but he said it wasn't worth it and most people don't have clean cars. I'm not just talking about a bit of dust and dirt. There were coffee cups that stank of stale milk, McDonald's bags, thick layers of dust across the dashboard (which I cleaned). DS has eaten McDonald's in the back and has dropped food under the seat. The boot is full of junk. (I didn't clean out the back, by the way).
I told him I felt uncomfortable with him picking us up from hospital unless he got the car cleaned and I would pay. He just wasn't interested. My mum ended up picking us up instead, but I have to go back to hospital tomorrow for blood tests and I'm uncomfortable with a newborn in that car. I can't drive because I've had a C-section.
Not only that, he knew it was important to me. He simply doesn't care and thinks I'm overreacting or have OCD.
AIBU or should he have got it cleaned?