To want to hide in a dark place and cry- so stressed

[Stressedgiraffe]

NCed .
Just really need to offload I'm feeling overwhelmed atm.

1. Just had a few days off work to find they've completely changed their mind on the business direction so 5 months of work done for nothing. All project now changing argh!!

1. DH told me while I was off that he'd been sacked. Only there 6 months.

So now I'm worried about money and him not working.

1. DD refusing to go to school. Currently under CAHMS possible adhd diagnosis.

1. Just had a cancer diagnosis and need a mastectomy. Feeling worried.

1. Dh has neurological problems due to diabetes that the doctors aren't taking seriously. I'm annoyed for him and frustrated at the same time.

1. Dd2 is needing a special paediatric dentist as our dentist won't do it.

1. Dogs keep farming and are shedding everywhere.

Aibu to just hide under my bed for it all to be over please?

Wow, that sounds like a lot to be dealing with op.

1. It's frustrating to feel you've wasted time but it's just a job, you've been paid for that work and now you will get paid for new work.
2. Let dh worry about that and sorting out the money. You can't fix it so don't give it headspace until he has exhausted all options
3. Tricky but at least she is under CAHMS and there's likely a reason rather than her just being difficult.
4. You're allowed to give this one some heads pace, it's crappy news and crappy you have to wait but try to remember that it's been picked up and you are in line for treatment.
5. Can you get a second opinion?
6. I think this one is a good thing, she will get the right treatment.
7. Can't fix this but maybe turf them into the garden if it's dry enough.

Good luck with your treatment op.

I am only dealing with 2 of those issues and I want to stick my head in the chip pan. That is such a lot to be dealing with OP, that is a huge load to be carrying on your back. I really hope things change for the better for you soon.

Oh gosh OP you have a LOT on your plate. Hope you're ok x

I've had a full mastectomy and I think you're being over optimistic about going back to work if you're having a full one, your drains will be in for almost 2 weeks! (If its a lumpectomy its a lot simpler). Can't help with much advice on the rest other than dogs farts, my three were awful and then I started to add fennel seeds to their food and it settled the wind really well.

If you want any breast cancer advice/support I've been through it twice so feel free to PM me.

My sister's friend had a full mastectomy and took a month off from work. She was a receptionist. Then she started back 2 mornings a week then 4 mornings and so on. It was in the 9th week she went back full time and she did not have any infections. It will take more energy out of you than you might realise. You are carrying a massive load OP. Time to call a family meeting and explain you need more support. Your DH needs to massively step up and stop saying don't worry. He needs deeds not words. Your children are old enough to step up too. Do the children know how to do laundry? If not show them and assign that as their job for the next month at least. Get DH batch cooking if he's not working. He should be able to vacuum and clean the house too. Start looking after yourself more. You need them to care for you ATM. Tell them you need this OP. Sending huge hugs. I hope the surgery goes well. Don't rush back to work too quickly.

The thing is I've had a left mastectomy before and radiotherapy and chemo. It was 12 years ago and a bit of a blur. The right mastectomy the surgeon said no drains and recommended 6-8 weeks off which I'm sure would be fine work wise but pay wise I'm not too sure. I have only been there 18 months.