Partners ex telling people I broke up their relationship

[Moopyhereagain]

Just a vent really, am going to be the bigger person and say nothing but… AIBU to feel cross - partners ex started a new relationship, this is what finally split them up ( they had been unhappy for many years, in same house only for kids, sleeping in separate rooms) She was a few months into a new relationship when he found out, says he was really relieved. He did move out of the family home a couple of months after we met, into rented as I said I was going no further whilst he was living with ex. I think she expected him to stay there and single to share the parenting. I’m really aware I only have his side of the tale, and am sure there was fault on both sides from the sound of it. She is def in her new relationship, I’ve met them together. Partner and her co parent pretty well together, 50/50 shared. We don’t live together yet. Will be a while as his kids are still young, but we have a lovely relationship. Anyway… turns out she has been telling everyone in small rural area that he left her for me. I can and will just suck this inaccuracy up but it makes me cross. I do worry this is the narrative the children will have but I’m staying out of it. Piss slightly boiled though.

It’s annoying but people can convince themselves of anything.

I met dh when he was living with his parents after his ex had kicked him out and moved her OM in.

yet she is now telling everyone it was us that had the affair.

sad think is she’s told the kids this and they obviously believe their mum, and it’s really affected their relationship with dh.

he doesn’t feel he can correct them without alienating them further from himself, and souring their relationship with mum.

so we leave it.

No, her new partner moved in shortly afterwards, they weren’t working through stuff , she has told me herself that it was well over and that she was / is glad he’s met me.
It sounds then like this is one of those situations where instead of people having a clean break, then moving on, they were both remaining in an unhappy relationship, then may or may not have broken up at some point, she starts seeing someone else, he stays living with her and there's no clean break. It's all wooly so both him and her can put whatever spin they want on it

well maybe you did! two sides to every story you can't just take your partners word for it. she clearly knew him well