I am currently filling out a counter terrorism check vetting form for my new civil service job. As part of the process I have to provide parents' name, contact details, address, occupation etc. I am NC with my mother and her new partner due to abuse and I have to provide details for both these people.
I'm concerned that my mother will be contacted by my new employer to confirm the information I provide, particularly as what I provide may be slightly out of date given that I don't currently have a relationship with them. I really don't want them to be contacted because I don't want them to know where I'm working or that I'm starting a new job etc. I also don't want them to have the satisfaction of knowing I need to provide their information to take advantage of a new opportunity for myself.
I could contact my new employer to ask if my parents will be contacted or will otherwise become aware of the situation, but I'm worried that this could then be held against me in the security approval process. But surely I can't be the first candidate who is estranged from a parent for legitimate reasons? Does anyone know if my parents will be contacted?