Cocaine

[flowerfairy3]

This might be a bit controversial, but tagged to the news Matt Willis of Busted (McBusted?) fame took 6g of coke a day and relapsed multiple times I'm like... why?
Why do smart, intelligent women like his wife Emma (and she does appear to be that) stay with these people?
He has said he would piss off for hours when their kids were young and take tonnes of coke.
Then he would do it again... and again... and again. She was left fretful and scared, driving from place to place trying to look for him.
I can sort of understand if someone is in active recovery and working really hard to change, but GOD it is such rubbish behaviour.
And, I speak from personal experience of being with - perhaps not an addict - but a problem user who, in the end, f*** me over and prioritised cocaine before me.
I don't know what my AIBU is really. I do actually think the drugs issue is nuanced and in some circumstances it's an illness, but not in every case.
So am I being unreasonable to judge middle class, rich, idiots who take cocaine and mistreat those who love them... or is it an actual illness and these (usually women) are right to stand by them? I'm genuinely curious.

It's an illness, a real illness

It's incredibly hard to get clean

It is reasonable to judge people whose actions lead to people in Mexico being killed and young black men being killed in the UK. And contributes to people wanting to cross the Channel in small boats.

@LaurieFairyCake I completely understand that viewpoint and largely agree with it. But in my mind (and I might well be wrong, I often am) there's different types of addiction: the person with the terrible upbringing/trauma victim who's as much a victim as a criminal and the posh, over-privileged user like Willis who (despite living a life of luxury) choose to indulge to the detriment of his family and friends. He didn't have to start taking drugs.