T tell my mum I can’t help as much anymore

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I got in debt and my mum gave me a credit card to prevent my credit rating going
I pay and clear but live off it each month

somehow this has meant that I have been assumed as official carer, apparently only I can take her to and from appointments, even the doctors transport was refused
I was selfish for suggesting it
I get abuse every step of the way and when I leave her there will be legnthy texts about what I have said abs done wrong
my dd is a teenager now and my mum likes to say iv turned her against her when in reality she’s just got older and I don’t force her to speak to people each day
today I had 20 missed calls and abuse whilst I worked
I honestly feel I can’t go in anymore I wake up and dread it. She’s my only family but I dread seeing her and wish I could walk away
I feel so unwell but she won’t change or amend her ways she makes horrid accusations that leave me depressed and in tears for days

You absolutely do not have to out up with her abuse.

You need strong boundaries in place.

If your mother keeps abusing you, there needs to be consequences.

Block her on the phone.

She can sort out her life on her own. You have a child to think about.

You need to give her back the credit card. Until you do that, you are beholden to her & she is taking very full advantage of this. I suspect she knew exactly what she was doing when she 'helped' you out. Once you do that, you can with clear conscience say no can't help & she has no power over you. Once that is done you will feel better.

Has she always been like this? How old is she? is dementia a possibility for some of this behaviour?