Is is possible to find love and companionship if you can’t have sex?

[SinglePonders]

Does anyone have that?
Or know of couple like this?

I’m not looking for lectures on how relationships are build on sex and it’s human desire, I’ve heard and read it all.

I’m just looking for tiny glimpse of hope of ever getting to experience love myself.

And to ve very clear, I’ve always been honest with people right from the start, and they’ve always walked away, fair enough, even if it’s heartbreaking.

YANBU - It’s possible to find someone like me / someone who can love and accept me as I am

YABU - Price of admission is sex, forget it, get ready to die alone

I’ve met a few people who are openly asexual, this is not even including those who don’t tell people/keep it close. I think there’s probably quite the population who are!

If it’s a mutually agreed upon arrangement then yes.

I fully believe there’s companionship out there for everyone.

Well yes if you find other people who don’t want sex you can have companionship with them. For people who do want sex, it’s going to be a deal breaker.

Maybe look at something like www.asexuality.org?

It’s possible but so rare that you’d probably need to find the community online or wherever other people similar you hang out. I’ve heard of a few women like this but have yet to hear of a man that is looking for a women who never ever wants any sexual contact. I’m sure they exist, but waiting for one to appear organically in your life is vanishingly unlikely.

If it’s mutually agreed on and you are up front about it then yes. My partner who I am currently separating from is not interested in sex, we haven’t had sex in 5 years.

when we met he told me about his “bitch ex” and that she had cheated on him and how awful she was. What he hadn’t told me was that he wasn’t into sex and after the stuff “you have to do in the early days” he would then rather be celibate. She started cheating on him because he has no interest in sex. I’m am separating from him because I won’t cheat on him but I am not looking for celibacy in a relationship (and I am sick of paying for everything -another story).

there are plenty of people out there who don’t want sex- the key to having a relationship is being upfront and trying to find someone likeminded. Not being like my “partner”

There are asexual dating websites, though not many men on there so pickings are slim.

It is possible. It is also very rare. But not maybe as rare as you might think.

As PPs have said, though, you have to be totally upfront about it at the outset and not allow anyone to be under any illusions that you might change your mind.

I know an asexual couple who are very happy, and apparently have only had sex three times in 19 years to conceive their child.

It's possible but as pp have said, looking in asexual-specific communities might be the way to go as typically people expect it to be a part of a committed relationship.

I'm absolutely certain you are not being unreasonable about this. For many people clearly sex is a fundamental element to a relationship.

But not for everyone. As I've grown older I've come to realise that sex really isn't the be all and end all and loving companionships really do not have to have sexual physical intimacy if both people are happy with that.

Absolutely. Find an asexual partner.

It might not be easy but yes you can find someone like you. As you have said, you are always honest from the start so people know what kind of relationship you want. I'd rather spend a lifetime trying without success knowing I had given it my best, than give up and wonder what if.