Is this a reasonable response to someone who's constantly leaving their kids?

[aozna]

I offered him 2 days a week which would suit around his work. Said he can't just leave them on other people until routine is set, id stop contact if that happens since he's barely seen the kids. He has in the past just dumped them on people and they say they never see their dad.

I would have birthdays and Christmas at mine because hes never bothered before. He would rather go out drinking anyway. He spent one Christmas having a "Christmas smoke" until 5 am after promising to help build toys and be awake for them opening their stuff.

I make the big decisions and he needs to speak to me about any decisions he would like to make. Since again he's never really done anything with the kids. I don't even know if he could be trusted to.

He has blocked me and ignored me for 4 weeks now after I said this is what I want. Was I unreasonable, he honestly doesn't deserve anything and if he did want anything else he could go via lawyers.

Have I been unreasonable? Or is it he was never going to make a plan with me anyway?

More context is our oldest is 7. Hes never been consistent ever. He's never bought presents. Up until 3 years ago didn't pay maintenance.

He doesn't show more than he does. Makes promises to the kids and breaks them

He's known to just dump them with whoever and I don't know them and I'm very worried when he does that

I don't know where he lives anymroe and I think he's sold his house to move in with his friend who is known to just do drugs nonstop. I don't have any reason to dislike this friend but my friends really don't like or trust him. I wouldn't want them anywhere near that. It's also a 2 bed house. We have 3 kids. He has the responsibility to house the kids and just downsized and moved in with someone irresponsible.

He's extremely lazy with the kids

Doesn't show up to go out drinking. Has a hobby taking photos and chooses to do that over the kids

I really don't think I have been unreasonable in this

Honestly I would wait for him to take you to court over access. The kids don’t need someone like that in their lives.

If he were a halfway functioning parent, I would think that things like insisting you could make unilateral decisions but he couldn't, and you always had every Christmas and birthday were unfair. However, he sounds woeful and I agree with PP - let him apply to Court. At least that will show some commitment on his part which appears to be lacking thus far.