I’m sure this must be the case in all families but I’m really starting to feel upset.
my DIL is quite a difficult character- that’s ok, I accept we are all different but myself and husband are really easy going, non judgmental and generally tolerant people. We are supportive emotionally and financially to people close to us.
my son and his wife got together just over a year ago, and fell pregnant straight away. We were all overjoyed as this is our first grandchild.
She is quite an abrupt person, doesn’t say much and often comes across as rude. As I said earlier- we accept people are all different and we are pretty relaxed. However things have progressed and now I feel at a loss.
She stopped visiting when my son came to see us and he told us she has a long history of MH issues and takes a lot of medication. We were sympathetic and let him know we would like to help or support them if they felt they needed anything .
She since gave birth to a gorgeous little girl. Shortly after the birth they got married. They had a small registry office ceremony with a handful of guests. We weren’t invited! They said they’ll have a big ‘do’ at a later date and invite all the family. Her mum and a few of their friends attended the wedding.
shortly afterwards my son got a great opportunity to work abroad. They all went. About 6 weeks later she returned with the baby and stayed at her mums (they don’t have their own home in this country since moving abroad). There has been no contact with us, the only reason we know this is that a family member bumped in to her. She said it was too difficult to look after the baby alone all day with my son at work.
my son is very evasive when we contact him and maintains all is ok in their marriage and she just felt homesick and wanted a some help with the baby.
she clearly doesn’t want us in her life, but surely it’s not ‘normal’ to not want your child to have a relationship with grand parents?
I just don’t understand any of this behaviour!