To think weight loss gets attention

[Macbeth89]

In a way not a lot else does? And people suddenly want to be around you

Do they? Why would I suddenly want to be around someone because they lost weight?

I'm happy for them but no I wouldn't want to be around them any more than before.

I’ve lost a lot of weight. I’ve got the same circle of friends as I had before

I agree it gets attention but not about people suddenly wanting to be around them. I find its the opposite and when people have lost weight I start finding them annoying because they are so focussed on their diet or exercise that its literally all they want to talk about. I know, I know, I'm just jealous.

I think this is possibly because people think there’s some kind of secret to losing weight and they want to know what it is, so they ask ‘how did you do it?’ And expect an answer that isn’t dieting or exercise.

Losing weight can be really difficult for some people and they want to be told that there’s a way to do that’s easy, I’ve lost around 3 stone in the past and it’s been the result of a complete change in my diet and working out a lot, neither of which I have enjoyed if I’m honest.

Not in my experience - weight loss through illness - don't see my friends as much as usual due to illness but they are still there - no one gravitating to me that I've noticed - only comments have been kind but negative!

Yes. Even modest noticeable weight loss recieves huge amounts of compliments, positive attention, fuss and flattery. I didn't have enough weight to lose for people in general to want to be around me more when i did (I believe this is a thing for many people who go from extremely OW to slim though) but certainly enough for a great many more men to want to be around me than before.

It gets attention yes for lots of reasons.

I've never noticed people suddenly wanting to be around people who have lost weight, unless you mean the opposite sex?

No more than dyeing your hair blue - and that’s instant!

Not necessarily. Loads of people lose friends or have family fall out with them because you’ve lost weight. It threatens the existing dynamic, the “we’re a big boned family” narrative etc.

When I lost a lot of weight it was because my marriage was tanking and I was miserable so was shit company and I don’t recall people suddenly wanting to hang around me.

Perhaps an increase in self confidence makes a person more outgoing and therefore it’s perceived that people want to be around them?

Yep.
The difference of how people treat you when you’re overweigh vs. not is staggering.

Of course I knew that people are shallow before, but I never knew just how well thin people get treated until I lost weight.

I definetly got invited to things more, I was included in pictures, suddenly I was ’funny and interesting’, all of sudden I was asked if I have a boyfriend - no one ever asked this before, guess everyone just though fat girl deserves no boyfriend and I was actually asked on my very first date ever a believe it or not it was by a guy WHO KNEW ME BEFORE THE WEIGH LOSS!

It was crazy.

I think a lot of people become more attractive when they lose weight. Not because their slim body is necessarily more pleasing than their larger one, but because they think it is, and it can act as a spur to try new clothes, hair styles etc, and be generally more appearance focused.

After i’d lost a few stone I noticed people talked to me more, shops assistants were more polite and I got more attention from men. I can’t say for sure if it was because I was thinner or because losing weight made me feel more confident and it showed.

I’ve lost 2.5 stone, no one’s said anything 🤷‍♀️