Job interview

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I’ve got a job interview this week for a really life changing job so as you can imagine I’m absolutely shitty bricks because I want it so much.

When speaking to my family/friend they are all like “oh you’ll be fine, stop being nervous/stop panicking” etc.

But I think well it’s okay for them to say that but they aren’t the ones going for the interview. And I know people will say they are just trying to reassure you but it’s like you just want them to understand.

Maybe I’m just being over sensitive?

Not being unreasonable! I hate when people say this too when I'm nervous!

What do you want them to say "oh wow, how nervous it must be making you! in your position I'd be having sleepless nights and throwing up for fear of making an arse of myself!"?

good luck, OP

They do understand, but they realise that them saying "OMG, you must be terrified. I'd hate to be you. Interviews are so scary, aren't they" etc etc isn't going to help you at all.

YABU because what are you actually expecting them to say? Don’t balls it up? Make sure you don’t act like yourself in the interview?

I’ve had some interviews recently, my close ones are the same. But unlike you, I don’t see an issue. We don’t work in the same field so it’s not like they can give me decent advice. A lot of advice can be found online, and I have career mentors at work who are better placed to support me. Therefore all I need my friends & family to do is wish me well and check in!

I think you may be pinning a bit too much on this interview. It's an enormous deal to you because you are making it so tbh. Harsh as it sounds, for all you know, they've already got someone internal in mind and this is just a box ticking exercise 😬. That really isn't meant to make you feel worse, but just to point out that this is not a defining moment in your career. It is just an interview and a very, everyday occurrence for lots of people and companies.

Just go and do the best you can.

Fwiw, I had a friend who is now a doctor. While she was studying, if she thought she'd done badly in an assessment, she would call people (me included) and bite their heads off if they tried to reassure her. It was toxic. Don't become like that. She's marginally better now but I still have to keep her at arm's length sometimes.

What do you want them to say?! Don’t tell people if you know and don’t like how they’ll respond?

I've not long completely career changed. I was told to 'just be yourself'. This is common advice and lifted me ....until they added '....but not too much' 😟

If you've prepped you'll be fine.