Smoking

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8 years ago my partner and I quit smoking as I had just been diagnosed with COPD. Itt has started to get worse over the last 12 months and I have difficulties just walking around the house. I have had numerous chest infections, and things finally started to settle down this last couple of months.

So despite my breathing, wheezing and coughing he has decided to start smoking again. Initially it was only outside the house but we have been going through a difficult patch, and I know he has been smoking in the house.
Just for clarification his mother died from Copd a few years ago so he is well aware of the effects cigarette smoke will have on my health.
I have called him out about it a few times in the past 2 weeks and he denied that it is happening except for one time. But I can smell it and I can see ash on the floor in the bathroom. I have found buts hidden under the bed. I want to ask him to leave. AIBU? we have been together for 11 years. Should I tell him to leave?

Yes ask him to leave even passive smoking is bad for COPD.

Bit dramatic asking him to leave! Support him to quit smoking again!

I think even if he is smoking he certainly shouldn't be doing it in your house where it can affect you! Ash on the floor and cigarette butts hidden is vile! He shouldn't be smoking no but if he is bare minimum it should be outside away from you.

He should go outside.

Not a good sign that he's denying it. That would upset me as much as the smoking, if not more. He needs to admit he's doing it first then you need to discuss how to manage it- outside only or giving up completely. If he can't talk about it openly then there's your answer right there.

I have tried to talk to him about it, but he denies it. It may be dramatic, but it is my health I am worried about.

It is not dramatic. You're right to be concerned about your health and your husband should be in board with that. It's not good that hes denying he's smoking.

I feel that because he is denying it we can't have a conversation about it. If he admitted to it we could chat about how to resolve the issue. He just denies it and walks off for another smoke outside, almost like he is trying to show me that is where he smokes!