Ex claiming regret but back on line and messaged me anonymously

[blueberryhills]

My ex and I broke up in the winter . Together over two years. Lives apart and we're on our late forties.
We broke up because we had a very traumatic experience and our relationship changed utterly. I ended up as his carer rather than a partner and he simply gave up on life . I then got sick but he was nowhere to be seen when I needed support and he was in a position to give it , practically.
I get sad about that from time to time despite me finishing it.
He was devastated and tried every trick on the book to get me back.
I dont want him back but he messaged me again recently about a separate issue and when I asked him if he was seeing anyone or looking, he said and emphatic no. Biggest regret of his life etc etc .

Fast forward to an hour later.. I am on tinder having a nosy .
Up he pops .
I got a shock and swiped right by accident.
Next moment, I get a message saying hello.
It is not my real name and there are no photos.
I nearly died .
So is he full of shit or Just really lonely and hedging his bets .

There is a huge difference between seeing someone and looking for a relationship which you asked him, and having casual no strings sex.

Why does it matter? He is not with you, he is allowed to go on Tinder and he is also entitled to not tell you.

He's full of shit.

Well you are a very unpleasant person then.

@Daleksatemyshed I need to remember this. I do get sad about it all sometimes . I am private because I am a medical professional and have clients on there and want to remain private.

YABU

You don’t want to be with him, so he is of course going to want to move on.

You have to let this go and move on with your life too as that is what you wanted.

This. OPs story is fishier than billingsgate. She either does want to get back with him (more fool her) or even worse she wants to torture and tease him.

@Greengold123 what a nasty post.
I am nothing like this .
Scroll on if you feel the need to be so horrid.

Some people's (men's) beloved partners of 40 years or so die, and they're remarried six months later. Some people (men) just can't bear to be on their own, which simultaneously being 'full of regret' or grieving or whatever. He could be regretful but still willing to stick his dick in an anonymous Tinder profile. That's not even a stretch to believe.

My guess thats he's probably just lonely and that as doon as anyone is on tinder that he hooks up with that you won't see him for dust!

Why are you on tinder with no photos and a different name?

I do think this is pretty relevant.

If you match with someone what will you say about not putting up your real name?