Is SIL complaining about my DC?

[WoolyAndYug]

Had my sister in law over yesterday with all of us (me, DH and DS 6 and 4.)

Whilst I was making lunch SIL was playing with DC aged 4 with a small shopping trolley. I could hear shrieks of playfulness but nothing more and the day carried on.

Today I got a text from SIL with a photo of a bruise saying my DC had done that yesterday. I was taken aback as it's a small bruise, nothing had been mentioned yesterday and DC is four. It wouldn't have been done in violence and if there was an issue I believed friend should have said something yesterday.

I apologised and said I didn't realise they were hurt and SIL has said it hurts now but will be better soon. AIBU to find this all rather strange?

Bit weird. How old is she?

She's 40. She doesn't have children if that's relevant. She usually loves the DC I just can't work out the intention behind sending that photograph.

It is odd to not have mentioned it. But then it is odd to me that my in laws wouldn't be around my kids without me, what was DH up to? Has she the hump that he didn't get involved or such?

is she looking for compensation 😂
Nest time she see's DC I'd issue a warning "all games are played at your own risk"

Did she not say how?

I don’t have kids either, but if a small relative bruised me by accident it wouldn’t occur to me to mention it to their parents. If I was sure they’d done it on purpose I’d say something at the time.

I'd just ignore her and keep my eye on what was going on next time she was playing with the kids to see if they were being rough so I could step in.

She sounds a bit precious, why did she text you instead of your DH?

If you don't have kids you can find other peoples a little wearing and annoying. It also means you feel completely out of your depth with knowing how to reprimand or correct any child in that instance, never mind the awkwardness even parents feel when telling off a child that isn't your own. Probably in the moment she froze, didn't know how to respond, and on reflection now thought you, as the parent, should know about the rough play. Unless there's alot more back story, yes it's a little odd, but not worth thinking over too hard.

Where there's blame there's a claim. She'd have to perfect her compo face though for the local paper. 😞

SIL or friend? Either way it is a bit crazy to mention it I'd say.

Similar thing happened when a relative was winding up our 4 month old lab puppy. Puppies use their mouths to explore and have very sharp teeth. He kept messing about with him, encouraging him to use his mouth and making him really excited. Then went on and on about it when pup had 'bitten him'. oh dear. I just ignored it. (looking at my now 3 year old 'savage' happily snoring away)

suprised by these comments.

Of course it’s okey for her to mentioned it.
Odd you had to make a thread about it.
Do you feel guilt or something that you now try to alleviate now here and have people jump up and bad mouth your SIL?

My 4 yr old niece whacked me in the head with a plastic toy a few weeks ago. I texted my sister the following g day with a pic of the bruise because I thought it was so funny that a 4 year old had done it! I think you’re overthinking, unless sil isn’t known for finding stuff like this funny.

Was she making a joke of it or was she telling you as she was annoyed?

I have 4 nephews 1 niece. They have all injured me lol one time or another accidentally. I cannot imagine taking a picture. She seems a bit odd

That's pretty strange of her. There is no need to message you to tell you that.

However, is there any chance she's doing it in a light-hearted way?

Why is she messaging you and not her brother?

Maybe DH could call her and ask what happened?

I doubt she’s complaining, sounds more like a friendly “ohh look at that” typed comment. Don’t read too much into it.