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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Neighbour issues

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Ioutme · 07/05/2023 11:48

I live on a a road that can be quite tight in places, few houses without drives hence not much parking space. We have a drive space for one car, then we park the other on the front (which is a public road - first come first served) but generally we’re parked there. Recently we’ve been having a bit of trouble from a house down the road with two cars and no driveway, left notes on our car and knocked on asking us to block each other in rather than taking up an extra space, also been quite aggressive towards me. It’s a bit of a faff if we do as we have to let each other out when the other needs to go out etc. AIBU by not blocking each other in and letting them have the space? I have to say I find the whole situation a bit pathetic. There is also parking available the other side of their house that’s where there is always room but it’s further away for them (extra minute walk) than being outside ours.

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Reasonableadjustments · 07/05/2023 11:51

Obviously you have a legal right to park on the road.

Why can't you just take either of the cars, rather than letting in and out?

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Ioutme · 07/05/2023 11:57

@Reasonableadjustments Hi, thank you for replying. This might be us then, mine is a manual and the other is an automatic.. I hate driving the auto and DP hates driving the manual! 😂

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Reasonableadjustments · 07/05/2023 11:58

I was just wondering if it was to do with car seats for kids or something

BakedTattie · 07/05/2023 12:02

Nah, they’re cf. ignore them

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Ioutme · 07/05/2023 12:03

Nope we have car seats in both cars. They have no DC.

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UnbeIievabIe · 07/05/2023 12:27

I see their point. I wouldnt write a note to anyone though, I'd just suck it up that I'd bought a house with no drive.

MrBit · 07/05/2023 12:52

Annoying for them but they shouldn't make it your problem

CityCommuter · 07/05/2023 12:58

@Ioutme your neighbours sound a bit annoying but I can see their point... you need to park in front of your own house regardless of whether you or your DH don't like driving each others car. It's not that you 'can't' drive either of them, you're just choosing not to. There are car seats in both cars so just suck it up and get used to driving both. Everyone likes to park as near to their own house as possible and preferably outside it!

OhmygodDont · 07/05/2023 12:58

I’d tell them to install a drive and then block themselves in cheeky sod’s.

Cheetahmum · 07/05/2023 13:01

Would you be parking over a dropped kerb if you blocked your own drive?

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Ioutme · 07/05/2023 13:50

@CityCommuter yes you are right, everyone does. I do just feel a bit that there’s a way of being with people and being abusive isn’t it..

@Cheetahmum yes it’s a dropped kerb

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beethecrackon24995 · 07/05/2023 14:08

Tbh I side with your neighbours. We had a drive put in a few years ago and park one in and one over. Public parking spaces are rare in our street but one of them is next door to us. I wouldn't park there as I personally think its a bit selfish even though technically I could.

CustardPiesAPlenty · 07/05/2023 14:08

They bought a house on a road with no drive. No way would I be pissing around moving cars around and blocking my drive unless the car blocker is always the first out and last back. If they want to park close to their house they need to buy a house with a drive. Dh and I had this when we had a long drive, I was always first home and last out so it worked well but other neighbours used to have to piddle about moving cars round.

@CityCommuter their car is outside their own house, the neighbour wants them to park over and block their own drive, then piss about moving the car blocking the drive to be able get their other car off their drive.

Also if I chose to take Dh's car I have to adjust everything, seat, mirrors, side mirrors etc because of the height difference between us. Why should the OP take her Dh's car? She has her own, probably one she chose for herself. They have one car on the drive and the other parked on a public road in front of their own house. I can't see the issue with that. The neighbour needs to just park wherever they can get parked like thousands of other people with no drive.

CoraPirbright · 07/05/2023 14:09

I don’t think you are supposed to park over a dropped kerb are you? Even if it is your own other car that you are blocking in. You might get fined.

pyjamalife · 07/05/2023 14:13

You're in the right. You're not meant to park over a dropped kerb anyway.

Keep parking as you are and tell them you're not willing to block each other in. What a faff!

longtompot · 07/05/2023 14:13

I don't think you are allowed to block a car on a drive way, even your own car. I take it you are parking outside of your house? Even if you aren't, it's a public road and you can park anywhere and your neighbour can't dictate where you can or can't park. I would have a chat with them about it if you can, as they might not be aware you can't block in your car on the driveway.

CatOnTheChair · 07/05/2023 14:21

Don't block yourself in!
You aren't supposed to block a dropped kerb anyway.
Keep parking on a legal space on the road. They are the ones without a drive!

happypoobum · 07/05/2023 14:24

You aren’t allowed to park over your own driveway if there’s a car on it so YANBU.

HauntedPencil · 07/05/2023 14:37

We are the same and it's not occurred to me to block each other in, and if it's the car you drive and your home alone it would be like car jenga. Even if they had a private gripe I think it's incredibly rude to send you a note. Our next door has four cars due to older kids and they often park outside my house etc.

Reasonableadjustments · 07/05/2023 16:03

Where does it say they bought the house?

sheworemellowyellow · 07/05/2023 16:08

They want you to change your ways so that they don’t have to change theirs?

Is there any other factor that might explain why they think this would be reasonable? Old age? Disability? Unsociable work hours?

Mammalamma · 07/05/2023 16:23

Gosh no, I wouldn’t block our drive just to make more room on the road. It would be an absolute pain having to move cars around all the time and we would have to do it multiple times a day. It’s a public road, you are well within your rights to park there. It’s not your problem the moved into a house knowing that parking may be an issue!

TheSnowyOwl · 07/05/2023 16:26

I don’t see why you can’t just move your cars to use the one you want. Surely it just adds a couple of minutes to your journey?

Goshdarnitgoofy · 07/05/2023 16:32

Absolute CF. They bought a house with no drive so should suck it up. It’s just laziness.

BanditsOnTheHorizon · 07/05/2023 16:36

I'm sure I read somewhere you can't park across a dropped kerb, even if you own the driveway, I could be wrong and it does sound daft

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