Am I the problem re in line dating

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Chatting to som men yesterday in line . I don't have photos up as I work with child protection and I know e lots of men on the ap who are married to mothers of some children I work with.
I'm very honest about this and say that I'll share photos once we match, which I do.

So one man , also anonymous unmatched me after exchanges throughout the day . We got in very well I thought.

The other with whom I shared my pictures with, was highly complimentary and we continued to chat .
He then unmatched me last night.

And the final man and I again , complimentary and chatty suddenly went off line for the evening . So after a few hours of one word platitudes from him , I suggested we leave things a s he clearly had gone cold and that was fine with me.

He messaged me this morning saying that we had only matched 24 hours previous, that he was out last evening and that I'd shown him red flags so yes, we should leave it . I had no idea he was out .
I replied saying that there are no red flags but an incompatibility in communication , that when I am Out and have had exchanges all day , I politely tell that person that I'm out but will catch up another time.

Is it me ???

Possibly a case of 'lost in translation' - are you on Uk online dating sites? It could be that...

I definitely wouldn't expect someone I had been speaking to for one day to tell me they would be busy or unable to reply.

I think most people keep things MUCH more casual until at least after the first or second date.

I would try to just relax and enjoy conversations but not chase them if they go cold.

People unmatch for all sorts of reasons, it could be anything from finding someone else, getting cold feet or feeling incompatible with you.

Good luck!

No we're both English speaking.

My experience has been largely creepy as I do t have photos up. I get that.
However any chats I've had in the initial phase , if the man is interested and busy, he always lets me know or I do, so as not to be rude or think that interest has waned .

Your first 2 examples we couldn't possibly know as we don't have any detail of how the conversation went. The 3rd example is you, people are generally much more casual after speaking for only 24 hours.

Thanks. Maybe I need to lower my expectations for chatting via text. I like to do that to get a feel for somebody .