Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

to keep my ex bfs stuff?

6 replies

indigox · 07/05/2023 01:57

When my bf moved in with me he was setting up a business, couldn't move in if he couldn't because he wouldn't have been able to do his previous job. So I spent £6k on the equipment he needed including a high end PC and so on. I only ever got £4k of this back, still owes me £2k.

After 3 months he quit the "business", continued to earn £0 and lived off me, being completely supported by me financially. I spent hours applying for jobs for him, helping him through interviews etc. and he started getting a selection of job offers in the last week.

However, it turns out during the last week knowing he had these offers and knowing he was about to get a salary he'd been posting on Spareroom and had a group of guys to move in with in London (I'm in Scotland for reference).

He claimed he was "researching" whether living in London was an option and if not he'd stay with me (cant even understand why he thinks i'd stay with someone on the basis they're here because they cant find a london flat).

He left on Friday to go and do a housesit I found for him so I could get some space and when I saw him today he pretty much dropped a "I'm moving regardless of what happens" so we're obviously over. He tried another attempt at getting me to move to London (so id bankroll it), then decided he hated me anyway when i said no.

Now apart from the bag of clothes he left with everything else of his is here, i.e. high end PC and all related equipment I paid for. AIBU to keep this? I paid for it after all so legally I assume its mine?? Selling it is my only hope at this point of getting any scraps of the money back...

OP posts:
BreviloquentBastard · 07/05/2023 02:01

If you paid for it it's yours. Keep it and sell it. And work on your self esteem so you don't allow yourself to be some lazy freeloading bum's free ride in future.

SueblueNZ · 07/05/2023 02:26

Doesn't he now owe you only 2k? I'd insist he pay you that before you return it all.
I guess if he repaid you the 4k in cash and has no proof of doing so
you could be a bitch and keep the lot, but I'd not want that sort of drama.

snitzelvoncrumb · 07/05/2023 02:30

It’s yours. You paid for it.

indigox · 07/05/2023 02:35

SueblueNZ · 07/05/2023 02:26

Doesn't he now owe you only 2k? I'd insist he pay you that before you return it all.
I guess if he repaid you the 4k in cash and has no proof of doing so
you could be a bitch and keep the lot, but I'd not want that sort of drama.

Yea only 2k now but I won't even get anywhere close to that selling this stuff 2nd hand

OP posts:
RedHelenB · 07/05/2023 02:36

BreviloquentBastard · 07/05/2023 02:01

If you paid for it it's yours. Keep it and sell it. And work on your self esteem so you don't allow yourself to be some lazy freeloading bum's free ride in future.

Not if she gifted it to him

MissingMoominMamma · 07/05/2023 02:39

RedHelenB · 07/05/2023 02:36

Not if she gifted it to him

She didn’t- she loaned him the money. He hasn’t paid it all back.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread