<No, I’m not Price Harry!>
My youngest DS was diagnosed with a life long, life threatening medical condition last year. I had no one to call or offer a bit of support (DH told his family). It was shocking, so scary and it’s been so hard to deal with. I just wanted my mum but she has refused to talk to me for over 10 years.
When I finally got the courage to text her a few weeks later, as docs asked if condition in family (pretty sure it wasn’t) she tersely replied ‘hope he keeps well’. This is her grandson that she hasn’t seen since he was a toddler.
DS had said he’d like to meet her over the years so I took the opportunity to ask her if she would. It took her 2 months to agree to a date. She met him and his older adult brothers/sisters for lunch. I was not allowed to be there and every time DC mentioned me, the subject was changed. My mother never even asked how I was. They have never heard from her again and they weren’t invited to my sister’s recent wedding despite oldest DC saying they would like to go (more to see cousins they haven’t seen). Later DC saw a big group pic of them all on Facebook.
I have an older adult DS who has a completely unrelated condition which we were waiting for assessment for (ASD and LD) at the time my mother cut me off. He was 10 and was quite close with her. She has never ever asked about it.
My mother cut me off for speaking out about abuse. Cut out of my entire family who want nothing to do with me or my DC.
Irs not something you can ‘move on from’, it hurts everyday, the injustice, the isolation. the feeling of low self worth and self esteem, the self doubt that maybe it was me not them….……
AIBU to think I’ll never stop struggling with this?