Me and DP took a day off work to spend together and go on a walk, last night we were supposed to pick a walk, I sat looking, he sat on his phone texting his friend, every walk I suggested he just said what about one here, I would look again and just got the same response, we never ended up picking one.
this morning I just said I’ve picked one in the absence of you helping me decide. As we were leaving he complained the drive was too far, i bit my lip, then in the car another remark that the walk wasn’t circular, and then another that the weather didn’t look good where we were going. I then pulled over and snapped and said if you had an opinion you should have picked one and told him to pick one now. He then just told me to drive, we spent the 2 hour drive not speaking to each other and the first half of the walk at which point he told me to stop it. Then on the way back someone text him something that annoyed him and he then went back to being weird with me again.
I just got to a point I thought I can’t be bothered with this and have just avoided him most of the night and which point I get told not to bother speaking to him until I’m out of my mood.
I was annoyed that he was being so negative and critical when he chose not to help pick the walk but he then gets in a mood because I’m in a mood and I then stay in my mood because apparently I’m not allowed to be annoyed.
he constantly says I’m moody but he doesn’t realise I just react to him, I feel like I live with Jekyll and Hyde and I’m constantly walking on eggshells but he blames me.
now I’m reflecting is it me or is it him and I just don’t know?
just as a bit of background I’m a very laid back person, I’m easygoing and not that bothered about what we do or where we go. I think this frustrates him because he says I never make a decision. The thing is when I do he always has something to say about it so I think what’s the point. For example he might ask where I want to go for tea, I’ll name say 3 places and he’ll say something like really? Or no so I end up just saying you pick and this seems to piss him off.