When people in your life use annoying questioning

[junglesafari]

MY SIL and MIL ALWAYS do this to me..

Examples:

I change something in my house, like a wall colour- ' Oh didn't you like the last colour you had ? How come you decided to change it? How come you chose the last colour ? Do you regret the choice ? '

I change my hair style/ colour.. ' oh how come you changed it ? ' where you bored of the last one ? What do you think about the new style ? Are you happy ?

I'm thinking about changing out my DD's bed. I just think I could get a nicer one and sell the current one she has. It wasn't expensive. I'm decorating her room too and can see that certain choices we made, weren't wrong, but I might now change a couple of things, as I have more of an idea of the style the room is going to be.

When we moved to our house, we had no curtains at all. So we decided to kit the entire house out st once, so that we could sleep in peace etc. we had some black out stickers initially.

Anyway, I might change the curtains too eventually, now that I've got a proper theme for the room. I'm not sure yet exactly. But I keep thinking about their dumb comments and questions and implying that we've made ' mistakes along the way ' and wrong decisions, if we decide to change anything.

My MIL has literally never redecorated her house or replaced broken furniture in 40 years.. so I just get the impression that they're always judging if we change things. Even stupid things, like moving a lamp from one place to another place in the house. ' oh you moved the lamp here now ? ' did you not like it where it was ? '

It sounds stupid, but it's really undermining and I know I am explaining it by giving examples of house changes, but it's basically any time anything changes. It's so annoying that I don't talk about much anymore, because if there's even a slight change, they'll ask why we decided that and whether we made a mistake previously etc etc

I just feel like they're constantly trying to catch me out and talk about how I've made some kind of mistake and I regret it. My FIL actually asked me once if I regret studying what I studied, because I work in slightly different area now.. and wasn't it a bit of a waste of my time etc..

I just don't get what they get out of it, apart from being intrusive and rude.

My parents use inane questioning all of the time.

Why is that cup on the table?

Whose is that jacket?

What time are you? What time are you??
On and on.

It's exhausting.

That sounds exhausting! My sympathies to you both, it would annoy me so much.

It's hard though because if you show you're annoyed they call you sensitive !

It’s just pointless noise making, my MiL does it too. If no one stops her she just goes on and on like a clockwork toy.

I did a charity run a few years ago wearing my wedding dress, ten years after getting married. “Oh, did you have your dress taken in?” No it’s the same dress. “No but you were much bigger when you got married, you must have had it taken in”
no seriously, I’m just as much bigger now as I was when I got married in this identical fucking dress. And she went on and on and on and on and asked at least ten people, in front of me, if they thought I’d had my dress taken in because I was so much bigger apparently when I got married in it.

pointless, incessant, unnecessary noise making