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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to want to terminate c/m's contract? (sorry, another c/m thread, feel free to pass by)

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alittleone2 · 17/02/2008 21:19

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Alambil · 17/02/2008 21:22

Bin her - hardly reliable, is she?!!!

geordiemacminx · 17/02/2008 21:22

No experience of childminders or childcare but this woman sounds like a liability - I would bin her as soon as possible.

If you behaved in the same way your employer whether it be office/school/factory would certainly get rid of you.

Bangandthedirtisgone · 17/02/2008 21:23

YANBU

NorthernLurker · 17/02/2008 21:24

IMO YANBU - even if she was as truthful as could be - which she blatently isn't as far as I can see - you would still need someone who didn't let you down as often as that. Children's 'illness' aside the weekend away thing is totally unprofessional and the E Coli is absolute crap! Dump her!

Tbh - this is one of the reasons I use a nursery!

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alittleone2 · 17/02/2008 21:24

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avenanap · 17/02/2008 21:25

This woman is suposto be a professional person who you are emplying to care for your child. For whatever reason she is not doing this, E-coli is a bacterial infection passed on though undercooked food and poor hygiene standards. It can only be diagnosed through lab tests. I would terminate as quickly as you can. If she has financila problems then this is not your problem and she should not be making you feel bad. You should do what's best for your daughter, not for her.

nancy75 · 17/02/2008 21:25

get rid of her as soon as you can.

Lulumama · 17/02/2008 21:25

ye gods ! terminate immediately

she is not taking care of your DDs basic needs if she is feeding her food that will make her skin worse

and as for not being there as her DH wants a lift to work !

she is entiteld to holidays etc.. but to give you reasonable notice ,so that you are not left in the lurch

as for e coli! she had better get onto environemntal health !!

she sounds like a skiver who is not taking her responsibilities as a child care provider seriously enough

Saturn74 · 17/02/2008 21:26

Wouldn't trust her with my DC again, tbh.

Lulumama · 17/02/2008 21:27

a pathological liar who does not feed your daughter correctly and lies about her own children, who lets you down at the last minute is going to have a negative effect on your DD though

if she did her job propelry, and was reliable , then perhaps she would not have such big money worries !

woodenchair · 17/02/2008 21:28

YANBU, sounds like you need to find some new childcare pretty sharpish. What a pain pita!

PortAndLemon · 17/02/2008 21:29

I think you do.

And if they do all have e coli (... I rather suspect not) then (a) it's a notifiable condition so will need to be reported by her GP and (b) as a registered childcare professional she must inform OFSTED.

quint · 17/02/2008 21:29

Get rid of her immediately - your DD will get over it very quickly

Alambil · 17/02/2008 21:39

your LO will resettle elsewhere within a week or two; kids are really resilient to such things

cory · 17/02/2008 21:41

I would say reliability was the most important trait to look for in a CM. If she lies about these matters, what else might she be lying about? There are lots of competent, professional CMs out there, your dd deserves better than this manipulative disgrace to the profession.

samsonthecat · 17/02/2008 21:46

Oh my goodness, you have to get rid of her! There are loads of fantastic childminders out there, you do not have to put up with this. My childminder is wonderful and goes above and beyond the call of duty. She has kept my daughter late and cooked her tea when my car broke down and when I had to take the baby to hospital, she even had my daughter on a day she doesn't normally when I went into labour and hadn't got any childcare arranged. She is trully fantastic and I would recomend her to anyone. You will find another who your daughter is happy with and who treats you with a bit more consideration.

Elasticwoman · 17/02/2008 21:46

I'd get rid of her. There will be another CM who does feed dd as you require and is reliable and not a liar. Or you could consider a nanny, nanny share or nursery.

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alittleone2 · 17/02/2008 21:48

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PortAndLemon · 17/02/2008 21:54

You see -- you have always found good CMs who are good with kids and where your DD loves going before, no reason for your DH to think you won't again.

Do you want to withdraw your DD immediately or keep her there while you look for another CM? If you want to keep her there for the notice period, just give gthe CM written notice that you will be withdrawing your DD with effect from . Otherwise, what does your contract say about termination? Is there any provision for termination without notice for gross misconduct, or anything like that?

mawbroon · 17/02/2008 21:54

alittleone2. I can't believe you have to ask!! I would have binned her over the food, never mind any of the other stuff. Don't give her notice either - she has seriously breached the contract by the sounds of it.

This kind of thing really makes me angry. There are so many of us childminders who do a great job, but this woman is the kind that gives us a bad reputation.

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alittleone2 · 17/02/2008 21:59

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Sidge · 17/02/2008 22:09

I would say she has been in breach of contract so you don't have to put up with her lies and unreliability for 4 more weeks.

Write her a letter stating that you are giving her notice due to her not fulfilling the terms of her contract, and that the end date is variable and dependent on your arranging suitable alternative childcare. For example if you find another CM or nursery that your DD can start with in a week or two you shouldn't feel obliged to leave her with this CM until then. She is a liability!

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