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AIBU?

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To want to murder my neighbours

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Anonymouslyposting · 05/05/2023 00:19

This topic has been done to death so I am being unreasonable just for posting but I’m annoyed and need a vent.

My neighbours appear to be starting some kind of party and are singing (screaming), playing loud music and jumping up and down. It sounds like lots of people. They started this at 11pm. It’s Thursday. I was already asleep (I have a three month old and a two year old so sleep is a precious, precious thing) and it’s been loud enough to wake me up and I now can’t get back to sleep. I understand that in terraced housing you expect some noise and it’s not their fault that I have young kids and get no sleep but it’s gone midnight midweek.

I do not need to hear every word of Mambo No 5 and Justin Bieber am now picturing painful deaths for the “singers”.

Would I be unreasonable to (a) go round and complain or (b) find some way to burn their house to the ground (possibly a risky move in a terrace)?

Maybe I’ve just become a grumpy old woman and hate the sound of young people having fun…

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JupiterFortified · 05/05/2023 00:24

YANBU op. They sound like absolute dicks. If it was a detached house I’d say the house burning would be a good move but definitely not wise in a terrace. Do you know them? Provided they’re not drug lords I think I’d have to go and knock and tell them to shut the fuck up ask them politely to turn it down.

quietnightmare · 05/05/2023 00:24

Are they reasonable people/people you know? If so could you just knock on the door and ask them to be a bit quieter ?

What about a bang on the wall?

If you do not feel safe to do the above then you can report online or telephone 101? Probably the safest option especially if you don't know them?

DiscoBeat · 05/05/2023 00:27

I understand that in terraced housing you expect some noise
It sounds horrific, far more than 'some noise'. They should not be making their neighbours listen to their choice of music in the middle of the night. YADNBU!

Deathbyfluffy · 05/05/2023 00:30

Time to wake them up at 7am with an equal amount of noise - I put my speakers against their party wall and played Baby Shark on repeat at 7am last time I had this.

They didn’t do it again

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Anonymouslyposting · 05/05/2023 00:33

We don’t really know them, they moved in a couple of months ago and we’ve sort of nodded at each other in the street but not really met. I think it’s the landlady’s son and some of his friends so I don’t think it’d be unsafe to go round, just potentially awkward in future if they get grumpy about it.

DH has said he’ll go round if they haven’t stopped “soon”, I’m not sure what “soon” means but it’s better he goes than me - he’s one of these people who gets on with everyone and will do it nicely - I am not feeling like being nice!

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Anonymouslyposting · 05/05/2023 00:34

Deathbyfluffy · 05/05/2023 00:30

Time to wake them up at 7am with an equal amount of noise - I put my speakers against their party wall and played Baby Shark on repeat at 7am last time I had this.

They didn’t do it again

I adore this idea!

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Anonymouslyposting · 05/05/2023 00:49

DH has now been round, very odd, they didn’t answer the door so he just knocked really loudly and repeatedly and the music stopped, everyone went quiet, blinds were twitched but no one appeared.

Either way it seems to have worked for now.

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ifIwerenotanandroid · 05/05/2023 01:05

'I have a three month old and a two year old so sleep is a precious, precious thing'

Do they get to hear your children every day & night, if sound travels so much?

But I hope you all have a peaceful night. It was probably a good thing to nip it in the bud.

Northernsouloldies · 05/05/2023 01:22

Been there, our old neighbour any night was party night. Lucky for them we didn't live in America because they wouldn't be here now. I would have gladly shot them just to get peace.

TheRussiansAreComing · 05/05/2023 01:41

You have my sympathy.
Do you have a Jerry can.

Mars27 · 05/05/2023 01:44

In my very long experience with bad neighbours in different addresses, going round and asking nicely never worked, so I'm surprised and glad that it did for you OP.

Catsbreakfast · 05/05/2023 01:49

Is this a one off or regular? If one off, let it go. You might want to bank the goodwill for a later opportunity’s if regular, get the council on it. Moving will be easier though.

EliflurtleTripanInfinite · 05/05/2023 03:06

JupiterFortified · 05/05/2023 00:24

Even then might be worth a try. We lived next to two young men for a while who dealt drugs and they were very considerate neighbours, very apologetic about waking me on the one occasion they played music loudly.

USaYwHatNow · 05/05/2023 04:13

@EliflurtleTripanInfinite some of the nicest, most considerate and most polite men I've met through my job have been drug dealers or career criminals. Bizarre isn't it 😂 although I often wonder if theyre like that to cover their tracks a bit. My parents live in quite a nice area, but happen to live next door to the local upmarket dealer, and he's the friendliest guy on the street 😂

Toomanysquishmallows · 05/05/2023 06:51

I feel your pain ! My neighbours listen to what I can only describe as “ disco folk) through a karaoke amp !

GretaGood · 05/05/2023 07:02

If it's the party makers mother's house I can imagine there would be lots of warnings and threats if he messes up so complaining neighbours might be enough to reign him in.

Iwantmyoldnameback · 05/05/2023 07:06

ifIwerenotanandroid · 05/05/2023 01:05

'I have a three month old and a two year old so sleep is a precious, precious thing'

Do they get to hear your children every day & night, if sound travels so much?

But I hope you all have a peaceful night. It was probably a good thing to nip it in the bud.

Daytime noise from children hardly compares with night time party noise.

Looks like they were just being thoughtless anyway.

Lacoeur · 05/05/2023 07:49

Some noise is a terrace may be hearing the washing machine during the day etc not karaoke at midnight mid week. Have a word if you feel safe enough too op and if they rent contact their landlord

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Anonymouslyposting · 05/05/2023 08:59

ifIwerenotanandroid · 05/05/2023 01:05

'I have a three month old and a two year old so sleep is a precious, precious thing'

Do they get to hear your children every day & night, if sound travels so much?

But I hope you all have a peaceful night. It was probably a good thing to nip it in the bud.

I’m sure they hear the kids sometimes but for now we are lucky that they are quite quiet. The two year old sleeps through the night until 8am so no night noise and is in nursery four days a week. The baby is luckily pretty easy and rarely cries for more than a few minutes (he doesn’t sleep but is at least quite quiet about it!)

Thankfully they stayed quiet after the knocking on the door - hopefully it was a one off or else we may be playing the “we’ll tell your mum” card!

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CabernetSauvignon · 05/05/2023 09:17

I wonder if they thought it was the police knocking?

Goldbar · 05/05/2023 09:42

Can you play dog noise (yappy dog baking really loudly etc.) on repeat against their wall as soon as they go to sleep. If they come round to complain about it, just say blankly "We don't have a dog".

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