to be pi**sed of that im being draged into best friends break up?

[theboob]

best friend partner hadan affair 2 years ago with one of our friends and resulted in a baby,she forgave him and every thing was fine till she found out she is having his baby again and is due soon.she forgave him AGAIN untill she found out that he had been and registered the 1st baby so he has his name after always protesting he did not,she is finally going to leave him but he has made it his mission that it is all my fault (he thinks i phoned the registry office)all blame is pointing towards me and im being labled a home wrecker.there are rumers flying around our friends of things that i have ment to have said,it all seems very childish to me but still cant help feeling hurt and upset i dont know what to do

YANBU I would make sure evryone gets to hear your side of the story too.

How is it your fault that your best friend's partner made someone else pregnant not once but twice? The only homewrecker is the moronic man who can't keep his dick to himself.

i know i have told him this, but he has a strange power of taking the heat of himself and onto someone else,had huge row with him on the phone but he is a pig,its turned into a huge chinese whispers now not seeing every body till wed at my ds2s 1st birthday which he has been told to stay away

YANBU to feel that way and what Bluestocking said. BUT, your friend needs your support.

what bluestocking said.

How on earth is it anyone's fault other than his? I hate people like this who refuse to take any responsibility for behaving absolutely appallingly.

Not a lot of point losing any time debating it with him though - he obviously thinks that f*cking someone else is less of a crime that telling your friend the truth (even if you didn't). And with this warped logic you are never going to win.

Just concentrate your energies on making sure that those who are close to you know the truth. Anyone else who judges you without hearing what you have to say is not worth the time of day anyway

thanks for your replies, i have washed my hands of him and helping my friend to find somewhere to live,just hard as dh and knob are v.close and he is ds2's godfather but told him to stay away which is causing tension between dh and i

the poor children

i do feel sorry for the kids,but the motherwas once a good friend and knew that he was with my friend and she slept with him again even after he had left her a single mum ,both of them were not using contraception she brought theses kids into this situation for that she is totally iresponsible