Worried about my 15 year old sisters boyfriend's behaviour

[elm26]

Hi everyone

There are 14 years between me and my middle sister, my Dad remarried but they are now split up. My sister has just turned 15 and he has just turned 16.

She started "dating" a boy last year and this has continued. Her Mum elts them share a bed which my Dad has quite rightly said will not be happening anymore since he found out.

She's told my 19 year old stepsister that he's pressuring her for sex.

She told me earlier that she had 50 calls and 16 messages from him earlier because she turned the tracking location off on her phone. When I spoke to her about this absolutely not being acceptable she laughed and said he spent £90 on some new clothes for her last week so she can't be mad at him and he's "really nice" just has anger issues.

I don't like this at all but her Mum moved them 50 miles away to the coast and although my Dad has my sisters and brother every other weekend, nothing we seem to say sticks with her. She thinks it's all fun and games.

I feel a bit helpless but I've got such a bad feeling about him and I genuinely don't know what I can do, if anything. Her mum isn't interested.

Any advice?

She is under the age of consent (16) and therefore cannot consent. He could go to prison if this were to occur and someone (Dad) should make sure he and his parents know this. I think the sentence is up to 14 years.

Also I do not know what the Mum's legal position were to be if she were to facilitate this by letting them share a bed.

I don't think there is much more you can do other than be there for her. I do find that telling people "it's not acceptable" tends to go in one ear and out the other. Instead asking questions for them to reflect on may help.
For example:
"What would happen if she rang or text 50 times to a friend? what would friend think?"
"What would boy friend think if she rang or text him 50 times? would he be ok with that?"
"At what point would she raise something she's not happy about - does it depend on how much he's spent on her?"
"Has she heard of the terms harassment, coercive control? What does she think they mean?"
"What does anger issues mean? How does he get angry? (It's ok to feel angry, that's a normal human emotion - it's how you act when angry that's important)

She may think this is fun and games but she is under the age of consent & if the boyfriend is pressuring her she with needs some support and advice to stop him. Maybe someone should tell her what @SarahSays1 says. So she is on the cusp of 14 /15.

Anger issues and what presents he has bought her aside - she and he should know that what he is asking her to do is illegal. I would be worried too @elm26 - I am sorry I cannot offer better advice.

He sounds awful definitely possessive, can the father stop her from seeing him

I met my possessive ex when I was 17 I was actually smart and didn't want to be with him, and new he was a wronged however I had no protection from friends or parents and he was big and popular so I couldn't get away, took 15+ years