Just wanted to say well done for taking the first steps and recognising that it is time to stop. It sounds like you are making really positive changes. My issues were a bit different to yours in that I could easily sit within 14 units a week if I was at home with the other half, but when out with friends we would binge drink ridiculous amounts. Post lockdown our nights out became more and more regular, and I was finding worse and worse hangovers, and far longer recovery times. Couple that with the effects of the peri menopause and I woke up one morning recognising that this was no longer a path I wanted to follow, not to mention that at approaching 50 it's very undignified to be trollied! There was no 'rock bottom' for me, but I cut down massively last year and this year have decided to try to go completely alcohol free.
I'm not going to lie, at times it feels hard (125 days today) but slowly the FOMO is turning into utter JOMO. I'm sleeping better, my menopause symptoms are decreasing, my mental health has improved, I am exercising more and 'looking after' myself better, eating more healthy foods, looking after my skin care routine etc. As a result my skin has never looked better, my face is no longer puffy, I'm more creative, I'm discovering new hobbies and spending more quality time with my teenage DCs. I haven't lost any weight yet (c. 4 stone overweight) but I'm hoping over time that this too will start to change with the positive changes that are happening.
It's taken some adjusting (mainly other people's expectations of what I should be doing ie carrying on as they have done) but i'm starting to see alcohol for what it really is, and hoping that I'm reversing any damage done by the 'fun nights out'. Realistically it's only the first one or two glasses that give you the relaxed fun feeling and then we spend the rest of the evening trying to chase that feeling and not achieving it!
I've found there are lots of positive sober movement socials out there - try following sassysobermum on instagram, she is great. I also downloaded the Try Dry app on my phone - it has tracking so you can mark when you had an alcohol free day, I find adding my little yellow teacups every day to be very motivational. You can also set yourself challenges and get badges when you do something for the first time without a drink eg going dancing or a wedding. I also read 'The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober' which is a great read.
At times I do have a wobble, I'm 50 later this year and still can't imagine toasting the big day without a glass of fizz, but i think I'm slowly realising that moderation isn't for me, so hopefully by then I will have talked myself out of it!
All I can say is take it one day at a time, journalling your feelings really helps and keep reading the quit lit. Good luck and be kind to yourself x