Distant friend during pregnancy

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AIBU to feel upset here?

I'm (24,f) due to have my baby at the end of May. I had a friend (same age, since we were about 11 been close) who I would see most weekends and always do things with. She'd always come to mine and my partners house and we'd cook, have drinks together etc

Since I found out I was pregnant last year I haven't seen her once. It went from at least once a week to just never seeing her. I've offered her to come round for a quick cuppa or see her during a dog walk but she always says she's busy. However she has starting going on holidays with groups of people she's never met, will send me photos of herself at the gym, goes out for drinks with people but just never sees me. (I know people have their own life, we're adults but it feels like she must have some free time if she can make these plans?)

I mentioned it to my other friend whose came to see me afew times and she was shocked that I hadn't seen my other friend at all! She said she thought she'd be like the godmother and couldn't believe I hadn't even seen her even for 10 minutes during my pregancy!

AIBU to feel a little upset about the situation? I feel like I've reached out alot to her but I just don't see the point trying to make plans now because I just get shrugged off :/ I don't want to fall out with her either, like I said I know we're adults now and we are busy in our lives but just going from seeing someone all the time to now at all... and not at all during my first pregnancy (first baby in friend group too) seems abit odd.

(If anyone has any advice on what I could do, or if I may have done something to cause this please let me know and I would be very appreciative!!!)

Any idea if she’s having fertility issues? This could be why she’s distanced herself.

She isn't in a relationship and says she doesn't want a boyfriend all the time! Whenever I used to mention her seeing anyone she'd always say she wasn't bothered so I'm not sure? She could maybe be a bit upset that im starting a family/settling down but that's not the way she is, if that makes sense? She's always been one to want a family more in her 30s from what I know or her :/

From experience friends can drift when they’re in different stages of life. If you would usually go out drinking or clubbing together for example then she knows this isn’t possible for some time. It doesn’t make it ok but this may be her mindset that you have nothing in common at the moment, hence her spending time with different friends. I’m due in July and haven’t seen any of my friends since before I got pregnant. I’ve cut them off because they’re not true friends to constantly cancel plans and then blank me. When baby comes along you will make new friends, sometimes it’s not worth holding onto the ones who can easily turn on you. Let her come to you from now on and if she doesn’t, it’s her loss. Best of luck with baby!