Do I say anything or hint

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ithinkiknow1 · 02/05/2023 22:03

I work with my friends husband...pretty certain he is having an affair with someone we work with but not 100% sure.

AIBU to keep this to myself? It puts me in a very tricky position.

Their body language is off and there have been a lot of lingering steamy looks. I know that sounds like nothing but I just get a feeling.

Thoughts please...

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prudey6 · 02/05/2023 22:10

Is there a friend at work you can talk to and ask if they are seeing the same body language etc as you before speaking to your friend

KarmaStar · 02/05/2023 22:14

Keep quiet.
If you know for certain you still have to be careful as you work with him.
The messenger is usually the one who is turned on.Be very wary of making assumptions.

YellowDots · 02/05/2023 22:23

You can't blast someone's whole life apart because you have a feeling.

Murdoch1949 · 03/05/2023 04:56

Pretty certain is not certain. Keep quiet about it. Continue to monitor from afar, but say nothing to your friend. If you do get what you feel is confirmation of an affair then you can decide what to do - tackle him about it or talk to your friend. Be prepared to lose a friend.

broadbeanquiche · 03/05/2023 05:25

Their body language is off and there have been a lot of lingering steamy looks.

Unless they are feeling each other up what do you mean? And the lingering steamy looks could just be them looking at each other like oh no not ithinkiknow1 again..

But I am not privy to what you have seen

GoodChat · 03/05/2023 06:45

You don't say anything without being certain.

FarmGirl78 · 03/05/2023 11:49

Unless you know for CERTAIN then no, you don't say a thing. You don't even go "hinting".

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