Could a 3 year old and 1 year old share a bed?

[Fredflinstoneswife]

Wanting to buy an antique single bed, it's longer and a few inches wider than a standard single. Would I be ridiculous to think my three year old and one year old could both sleep in it?

As a one off on a night away? Yes. As a long term arrangement? Absolutely not.

How would you get a mattress that fits?

No I wouldn't be comfortable with that, and like others would love to know why

OK, that settles it. Thank you all for your valuable input 😁

My 3 year old and 18 month old made their way into our bed and I caught them actually fighting and kicking each other in their sleep in the early hours of this morning. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Yours might be better behaved but there's no way I'd trust mine to share a bed every night!

If you love it as a piece of furniture, could you use it as a daybed/sofa ?

You got any idea how expensive it is to get a mattress that isn't standard size? That bed may not be a good investment

Totally ridiculous and unfair! Not to mention safety! 🙄

How ridiculous 🙄

Ha Ha

Yes., they will wake each other up, and then the one year old will inevitably fall out.

That doesn't sound safe. YABU.

I don't even trust my three year old alone in the same room as my nearly one year old (he climbs on him, puts stuff in his mouth etc.). There's no way they would be safe sharing a bed and even if they were bedtime would be an absolutely nightmare. Your three year old may be better behaved than mine though.

3 o'clock in the morning and one of them has wet the bed means 2 awake dc instead of 1 while you change it.
I'd pass on that option.

Glad you've binned the idea but my first thought was where would you get a mattress for it.

Very much against the grain here but I think it would be fine as long as 1yo in particular is settled at night. My DDs have had reason to share over the years, for 6 months at 1 & 3, again again at 8 & 6 for 18 months. Plus there where the times I’ve had all 3 in one bed. But I grew up in a family where babies slept in draws and both my parents were 1 of 10 kids who lived in a) 1 bed apartment over a shop and b) 3 bed council house, so doing what you need to do is very much normal for me.

I'm really curious as to why you want this antique bed?

i wouldn't. Not safe for the 1 year old and they'd wake each other up! both mine have been rubbish sleepers.

Buy the bed and give it to one of them so that when they do want to share a bed occasionally they'll have space!

Like others have said they do need their own beds normally.

It's not fair to make your children share a bed designed for one person because you want an antique bed.

In the AP community where people often co-sleep with babies, a sibling bed is considered a way to extend this same security into childhood if it works for both children.

In terms of co-sleeping safety though they do recommend that the youngest child should be at least 2yo to minimise suffocation risks. Because children aren't aware of babies like adults are and they tend to be restless sleepers, they might just roll over the 1yo in their sleep and neither would notice. The smaller one would not be able to push the bigger one off.

I can’t think why you’d want to do this.