Drug dealer in the family

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I am reaching out for help as I am in a situation that I am finding extremely hard to navigate.
My fiancée has a brother who moved abroad (to Spain) two years ago. We never knew what he was doing out there for work until he admitted to my partner that he was involved in ‘illegal activity’ but didn’t give details. He then later admitted that he is involved in selling weed however he doesn’t handle the drugs he just ‘connects people’.
My instinct is telling me that it’s more than just weed and that it’s Class A drugs. Other people we know have alluded to this.
I told my fiancée that I don’t want me or our three children to be around him whilst he is involved in illegal activity. It scares me.
The whole family seem to turn a blind eye to it and are currently planning a family holiday for later this summer and his brother is returning to the UK for it.
Whenever I have tried to discuss with my partner he gets uptight and defensive, which makes no sense to me as he is a law abiding citizen and I would expect him to be as horrified as I am.
I don’t want to go away on this holiday, not because I don’t think we would be in direct danger but because morally it’s so wrong and I don’t want it to be normalised, what message is that sending to my children.
I would be so grateful for any advice thank you x

It's difficult, and I think a lot depends on how much he's involved. Although I 100% agree with you on the moral standpoint, any involvement, even if it is "just" cannabis, is wrong.

I agree that you should be safe on a family holiday in the UK, although I would refuse to stay with him in Spain. If he is involved in class A drugs more than he lets on, he may well have people who aren't happy with him and I wouldn't want to be caught up in that.

It's a difficult situation, if it were me I'd say no staying with him in Spain, minimal contact (at least for kids and you) and definitely let your husband know your concerns (if you haven't already).

He's in Spain and a 'connector'? I'd be steering well clear personally. If he's not hands on he's high up in the OCG. The higher up you go the bigger the risks. I wouldn't/couldn't be involved with a family like that.

Look,it's a family holiday,he probably won't bother to turn up anyway.
There's a lot of gossip and talk but do you you know anything that is a fact?and what on earth do you think he's going to do to you and your dc?
You are being very precious.Go on holiday and be determined to enjoy yourself.

Spain has a complicated relationship with weed so I think it's different to someone running a line here.

Look up cannabis clubs, it's "illegal" but tolerated

I’m instinct is that’s it’s more than weed and It’s been alluded to by people who know him that’s it’s also coke. Whatever the drug if being sold in large quantities there are risks and I don’t want to be in any way associated to it

I would be wary if I were you particularly if you think it is more than weed. I wouldn't want to be associated with it. You sometimes hear of family members being chased for debts when a deal goes wrong. I would stay well away from it all.

I agree with the OP.

I have seen first hand the dangers of county lines on vulnerable teenagers and their families. I simply wouldn't want to be around someone who is involved in distributing drugs.

Stand up for what you think is right!

You're not being unreasonable.

Your fiance needs to face the truth,

A)his brother is a drug dealer and criminal
B) he needs to decide whther to prioritise you and his children, or the drug dealer criminal.
C) you have decided that you and your children will not be going on holiday with drugs. End Of.

Aren't there actual weed shops in Spain? I'm sure my sister said last time she went there was one in the town they stayed in. So why would they need weed dealers? Must be something worse than weed - like you say.

Aren't there actual weed shops in Spain?

Yes but they're a legal grey area. It's not decriminalised in the same way it is in Netherlands but it's fairly openly sold and you can look up where to buy it on the internet and the venues (like a Dam coffeeshop) are tolerated by police.

The police there still bust major growing operations though.

Like I said I think it's a fairly different thing to being involved in a line in the UK.

I wouldn't want to be anywhere near this man in Spain, the UK or anywhere else.

Cannabis for personal use is decriminalised in Spain, but Spain is a popular drugs route as it's ideally situated for importation of some drugs e.g. from Morocco, growth e.g. cannabis and then further exportation.
https://english.elpais.com/spanish_news/2021-02-03/spain-and-its-narcotraffickers.html

As I said before we aren't talking a street level dealer, he's a facilitator. Every gift and treat he buys your children will be bought with drugs money, so just think about all of the violence and exploitation that goes into that.