Sisters DH has been invited on a 5 day, 40th birthday celebration to Prague. Money is tight for them, a little bit of debt.
They have been together for 6 or 7 years and she has neither met or spoken to any of the guys invited to Prague, not even the birthday boy himself. Her DH also hasn’t seen any of the guys for the whole time they have been together but they have a WhatsApp/Facebook group and did used to be close before everyone started moving away for work etc.
Her husband has said that he’d rather go to Prague with these guys than go on a little holiday with her and the kids. Sister and her DH could all go away to Spain for about £2000, whereas it would cost £1500 for him alone to go to Prague and do the activities/drinking etc. They can’t afford both. My sister asked me if she was being selfish not wanting him to go and is really upset that she now might not be able to go away with the kids this year.
AIBU that I said to her that I think it’s quite selfish and disrespectful that he would put a lads holiday with guys he’s not seen for years and she has never met (and had no plans to) above going on holiday as a family?
Her DH thinks I’m being unreasonable saying I wouldn’t agree because my DH goes away with the lads. My sister shut the discussion down (basically gave me the look, as her DH has the habit of getting quite loud/shouty).
It’s true my DH does go away but 1) we can afford it, 2) it’s not instead of a family holiday, 3) my DH wouldn’t choose himself to go on holiday and the children not have one, 4) I know DHs friends.
My own DH says he understands both sides and so in true form is as non conflicting as ever!