extremely upset

[MissyMissMs]

I've got a final exam tomorrow morning and im completely terrified. I studied like I normally do but I know absolutely nothing and Im going to do so shit. I tried my best and I studied every single minute I could but im so stupid and nothing has sunk in, there is no way I'll be able to pass

This exam has a huge weighting towards my final degree score and if I fail I won't be able to graduate, I will have to resit in the summer. I have a job lined up for after graduation and I am due to start in June. If I fail my exam tomorrow and have to resit it in the summer before I can graduate my job offer will be withdrawn.

Im so unbelievably scared. Im always nervous but this is next level nerves. I couldn't keep anything down today and kept throwing up because im so worried.

everyone in my family is so smart and then there's me. Im going to let down my extended family but most of all I'll be letting down my parents. They've sacrificed so much for me and yet I'm still completely thick. I really want to make them proud and I dont want to let them down but im going to do so badly tomorrow and im going to completely fail at everything and let everyone down

I was going over my notes one last time and it made me realise how little I know. I know nobody can help me but I just wanted to get this all off my chest before I cry myself to sleep about it. Everything always seems to scary at night and I feel so alone and scared about what's going to happen tomorrow

Oh come on, you probably know a lot more than
you think. Probably the most important thing you can do now is try and get some sleep. In the exam just try not to panic and take things step by step. What subject are we talking about?

Stop ✋ panic and worry helps nobody.
you have done as much as you can and you will do your best; if anything getting in a panic will make it worse.
The worst possible scenario is not the end of the world, it's important to remember that. You are putting more pressure on yourself than anyone in your life would want.
take deep breaths and calm yourself, it really honestly isn't worth worrying OP. I use this technique for everything now and it helps, I promise

Calm down.
Whatever happens tomorrow, you haven’t killed anyone, so it really isn’t that bad.
You have obviously been studying hard for a long time, some knowledge will have stuck.
You’ve got yourself in a blind panic and your mind has frozen.
Take a deep breath. Everything is going to be okay .

play this, it’s proven to reduce stress by 60%. It slows your heart rate and calms the mind. You will be okay. Good luck.

You are not going to learn anything more tonight, so you need to try to calm your nerves, switch off and get some sleep.

I listened to a radio programme where a scientist explained how our brains process information as we sleep and dream, so you may find a bit more clarity in the morning.

You could set your alarm for an hour earlier than usual to look over some key areas- this might take some pressure off as you’ve built in a bit of breathing space in the morning.

thank you all so much, im going to listen to that video right now, I've worked myself into a right state and can't sleep.

the subject is maths, its my last year of my degree hence the added pressure x

Go to bed!

Whatever happens, you will be fine.

And repeat.

PS and DS, also final year of uni, is the most laid back person i know and even he is getting stressed. Try and relax and get some rest.

Good luck 🤞

You can do it OP but you do sound stressed. Understandable. Set your now alarm. Have a bath or something similar to try and calm down. Go to bed with some guided mediation or sleep music. It will be okay!

*set your alarm now

TBF Maths is hard! Where are you studying? Even if you did fail if it's only one reset why do you think your job offer would be withdrawn? I've known a few people get 2.2s instead of 2.1s and not be chucked off their grad jobs. One was for an accounting firm and another was aeronautical engineering so not exactly lightweight jobs.

Do you normally get very stressed with exams? Or are you feeling worse than normal? Hopefully you will feel better in the morning. Once you are busy getting to the exam centre you might feel a bit better. The night before is always the worse.

I hope you get the best questions. Good luck. 🍀

Warm bath, hot drink, lovely smelling something eg spritz of perfume or some body oil, set your alarm and bed! You have done all you can and now your body needs to rest and recharge itself. Please stop the worrying, you know it doesn't help and your poor brain needs a rest before tomorrow. Your family won't judge you, they want you to be happy and content. Mental health is so important and right now you need to take care of yours. Sweet dreams and lots of sleep!

Hope you’re having a good sleep OP. Cheering you on for tomorrow.
If you feel like this again I’d read up on imposter syndrome!
You’ve worked really hard so you can be proud of whatever happens. All the best.

Echoing pps that I hope you've gone to bed and are asleep. You cannot be thick or you wouldn't be studying maths at uni. Simple fact. Stop comparing yourself to others and try to stay calm. Good luck for the exam. Just take things slow and steady. Read through the whole paper before deciding what to answer first if that's possible with the exam format. Tackle your second best question first then your best one (your brain will be fully engaged then and you'll maximise your chances of a high score).

Hardly anybody fails a degree and in any case no one exam ever has as much weighting as you are suggesting. Not even maths (which is my degree subject). You will be fine.

If you've done the revision it will come back to you. You're panicking and that's why you think you've not retained the information. Have a good breakfast, RELAX, take water and kick ass.

How do you feel it went today? @MissyMissMs
I hope it wasn’t as bad as you feared.

I always catastrophise before an exam too. It usually goes much better than I expected. I hope you slept, got through it and feel relieved.

I studied maths also and I found it so hard. I didn't understand the vast majority of it. It used to wind me up when people would say that I will be fine in the exams and that I know more than I think etc. because I genuinely knew nothing. It's not like other subjects where you can write a bit and hope that you're including the right stuff. If you don't know it, you don't know it! I still have nightmares about my degree and I graduated nearly a decade ago 😱 So your exam is over and you may have scraped through. You may have failed terribly. But either way, it's OVER! Hope you're okay. PS. You've let nobody down. Life doesn't work like that. You know that I'm sure but it is good to hear an external voice reassure you if it ;)xxxx

It’s ok. The answers will pop into your head. Try some breathing exercises and relax. Focus on what you will do after the exam. Visualise yourself doing well and knowing the answers.

You can retake if the worst comes to the worst. But, the fear is your biggest weakness. Be bold, be brave and understand the worry is not helping you.

How did it go OP? I hope you have a nice relaxing evening ahead of you.

How did you get on OP?

Breathe!!!

Believe in yourself and TRY!!!! If you have tried really hard and don't pass, you've still done YOUR best and I would be extremely proud of you if you were my daughter, regardless of the outcome

And read the question more than twice x

The good news is that you get marks for moving towards an answer even if you don't actually get there. I found that when all else fails start doing anything you can with the info you have - you'd be surprised at how often you "fall over" the answer.